I've been getting some pressure from my parents to lose weight lately and I don't really know why. I'm 5'6" and my weight fluctuates between 138 and 142ish. My doctor says I'm healthy (not under or overweight) and when I play softball I don't have any problems running or anything like that. Still, I've noticed that most of the girls at school are smaller than me, and very few are my size or bigger. Both of my parents are very conscious of weight and health, they workout every day and don't eat junk food often at all. I feel like I eat both healthy and sometimes unhealthy, but I eat healthy more often. I felt fairly confident in my weight/body before my parents started making comments like "you shouldn't eat that" or "you should come work out with us more" or point to my stomach and say "woah what's that?". Now I'm not so sure that I am as healthy/skinny as I thought. Please be honest but don't be rude, I did not post this to be told I am ugly or pale (I don't tan okay?) I just want some people with no bias to look at my body and give an honest opinion on whether or not I should lose weight.
Most Helpful Guy
First off Ky_rose I'd like to compliment you on your articulation, confidence, and maturity. You seem for your age pretty smart with a good head on your shoulders.
Next is to address your body. You are very correct and your parents are not. As you mentioned physically you went to the doctor and he agreed you are fine weight wise.
Now for the most important thing. Please if I can get a few people to understand this... and that is don't compare yourself to anyone. Not your parents, not classmate, celebrities or anyone else ever no matter what. And you are doing so well too. You feel good playing sports and doing the activities mentioned and that's really important. You even had the confidence to accept yourself until your parents put this idea in your head. One thing I've learned is parents make mistakes (and they made a big one here).
Please realize that even so others may be thinner than you they still are not in your body. So don't compare to them. You are a great young lady who is confident and healthy.
When your parents say, 'Look at (whatever they criticise)' you can say, 'I'm fine with my choices right now thank you.' If they say more then tell them or remind them the doctor thinks your in the right place physically.
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Most Helpful Girl
You look about the same as me, and I get the same thing from my parents. I think that as long as you're healthy, it doesn't matter what you look like. You're curvy, and also it's really normal for a woman to have a stomach... There are some pretty important organs in there!0