A guy have told me that I am single for long time because I have high standards; handsome, tall, high educated etc.. Did he mean I'm not hot enough for that type of men or that I'm just unrealistic because that type of men are rare.
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A little of both.
Some dating sites have done pretty unique studies. They have had neutral parties rate men and women, and gotten a mean score for what a particular guy and girl looked.
So, let's say they have a guy and a girl who are both 7s, after the averages of many honest ratings.
When the girl is asked to rate herself, she tends to rate herself at an 8-9, so women tend to inflate their own rating in their head.
And they tend to undervalue guys. She is likely to rate him a 5-6.
This has been tested and shown true over and over.
Basically, women tend to overvalue themselves, and undervalue men. If she only put herself at an 8, and kept him as high as a 6, she still thinks he is beneath her, and that, based on her perception of her looks, she should be able to bag a better guy, when, to the objective observer, they are comparable with each other.
Sake of argument? Just because women over value themselves, that doesn't mean they are ugly. There is NOTHING wrong with a 7! But that isn't where she wants to be.
I'd suggest look at some of the guys you've said "no" to a little closer and more honestly, and look at yourself a little closer and more honestly. You might really look fantastic... but you might not be the model you think you are.
He might honestly be a little plain, but he might not be as unappealing as you thought he was at first glance.0