Okay so I'm very cautious about my looks, so one day I asked my best friend, and she's the friend who I trust a lot, like my sister, so I asked her if I was ugly and she's like "no" then I asked her to give an honest opinion and asked her if I was the ugliest girl in our grade and she's like "hmm... I guess you are the ugliest girl in our grade". So that kind of hurt me but I didn't complain because i asked her to give me her honest opinion. But I doubt she's lying... but just in case she was, I asked my other friend, who I don't trust very much since she's always gossiping about me once every so often and I told her that my sister-like best friend said I was the ugliest girl in my grade and she said "She never lies, trust her". So after I am very cautious about my looks and I'm very sad that I'm born so ugly, both of my friends that i trusted a lot said I was ugly. A lot of people say I'm talented (since I went on the city news a few times and got interviewed on tv a few times too for my talent), and smart (since I get pretty good grades, 90% of my grades are above 90%) and a lot of people say that my personality is amazing. But one day, i heard these people talking about me and this is what I heard
boy:Hey can you guess who I have a crush on?
girl: I bet it's (myname)
boy: No way! Ew!
And I bet he meant that because I am ugly.
Any tips on what I can do to make me feel better? Or if any of you have any situation similar to that?
Most Helpful Guy
Trust me, you are not ugly, far from it. I don't know if everyone in your grade are assholes but the ones you associate yourself with are it seems. That being said, the only piece of advice I can give you is to stop caring so much about your looks. Don't let others define you and don't let others stupidity get to you.1
Most Helpful Girl
Who gives a fuck about what others think or say about you? You need to avoid these toxic people. I was in a similar position to you when I was 14, however was never bullied for my looks so was never really insecure. But then again, I always had put up a "I don't give a fuck about you" mentality. Looking back now, I can honestly say I was one of the "ugliest" girls in my grade (I'll send you a before and after picture of me if you want). Now I'm 19 and had just gotten into make up and fitness. I'm so glad I was not so hung up on my looks during my high school career, and the fact that everyone in my grade was kind, because I think that would've had a detrimental effect on my self-confidence, which would, as a result, negatively affect different aspects of my life.
The best thing to do here is to exude all the confidence you can and believe that you're better than everyone else. Judging by your achievements, you probably are. Looks take you no where in life. Just look forward to the future because you'll make better friends in uni, work, as you mature, from all walks of life, etc., and realise you were not alone in this.
You're not ugly. You will grow into your looks. You actually have soft features and I can see a lot of potential. Just focus on eating well and exercising, both physically and mentally.