It was about me being depressed about looking like a certain user.
So @jxpxtxr said that we should stay in our lanes. I tried writing the following but the post got deleted, so here goes
"With all due respect @jxpxtxr, the whole concept of lanes can be misleading in this scenario. A survey has been done to prove that to women 80% of men are unattractive, 18% are average and barely 2% make it to the attractive category while it's a 50-50 when it comes to men judging women
This means if we were to go in our leagues by this logic, a 7/10 guy=4/10 girl in terms of how they statistically look and not perceived (ie 7/10 actually means he is better looking than 70% so he is probably a 4/10 if rated here but the girl is still better than 40% women and yet rated a 4 maybe even a 5 or 6)
Is it fair to men considering this?
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First of all, don’t ever tell yourself “I should stay in my own lane.” That’s a self-defeating mentality. What you are basically saying is that you are not good enough or skilled enough to be apart of another “lane” so you should just stay where you are and not even try. You are going to miss out on so much by doing that. Thinking like that is not going to help you. It’s only going to encourage you to not like yourself and to be mean to yourself for not being able to keep up with others in “their lane”.
All of that 1/10, 5/10 stuff is you overanalyzing. It’s not that deep when it comes to attractive people and who they end up with. I’ve seen very attractive people with not so attractive people and they are happy together and so much fun to be around.
I think what you need to do instead of worrying about that previous post is repatch your self-esteem and build your sense of self-worth.