i can't get guys not even as friends. like today I asked the guy next to me how to solve this physics problem and he said I don't know and then he introduced himself to the girl behind him and asked to check answers when he could've talked to me about it. This actually happens a lot to me. Guys would ignore me or brush me off even though I try to be friendly. I have seen a few hot guys look at me when I was in high school. But most had girlfriends and they never talked to me they just looked at me.
In college I'm usually alone or with one other female friend. I sometimes would see guys look at me but again they never approach me (I'm not exaggerating I don't even remember the last time I hung out with a guy as friends) but I see them striking up conversations or hanging with other girls. I always thought I was an average looking girl but if I'm 20 and can't get ANY guy to talk or approach me let alone be interested in me then I'm obviously uglier than I think. So what can shy average looking girls do to get guys to notice her and approach her? I'm not into bars or parties and I don't hang out with people that do that. I'm never invited to parties anyway. I guess I'm not fun because I would say I focus a lot on academics and Please don't say approach them yourself because 1. I'm shy and 2. When I do approach they seem to be uninterested or ignore me usually. Thank you
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Most Helpful Guy
Your looks aren't the problem - you are well above average.
Almost certainly, it's the vibe you give off. You said it yourself: you don't "seem fun", and I think that's exactly what the problem is. I'm sure you can BE fun, but between your shyness (which means you aren't very outgoing) and the "serious" and "academic" vibes you give off, guys just assume that you aren't interested in them, or in "having fun" (meaning: hanging out, going to parties, etc.)
Girls are always quick to blame their lack of success with guys on their appearance, but your personality really IS important. Guys aren't even getting to know you because they're not getting any signals of interest from you, and most guys aren't going to risk rejection by approaching you when the odds seem heavily stacked against them.
Just as we often tell guys that they need to work on themselves, take some chances, and be CONFIDENT if they want to get a girl, I'm telling you the same thing: you need to show some confidence. Go to places and events where guys are going to be, and GET INVOLVED. Sit in the middle of the room (not in a corner), get involved in the conversations. LAUGH. SMILE. Let guys see you having fun and being fun, and suddenly guys who never noticed you before will start paying attention to you.
I know that will be scary and difficult for you to do, at first especially, but that's the thing that is standing between you and getting a boyfriend. How bad do you want a guy vs. staying in your comfortzone?5
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Most Helpful Girl
Omg, I can relate to this so much! I'm really shy but I do have guy friends. I focus a lot on my academics too since I want to get into a good University but I seriously don't know why guys don't talk to you since you're really pretty. The number one thing I would say is to be confident, not cocky but confident because to girls, confident guys (not cocky) are really attractive (or is it just to me?) and I think it'd be the same with guys. Maybe make a joke or tell them something interesting about you when you get a chance to talk to guys. You can also dress up once in a while (curl your hair, wear extra cute clothes or shoes). For example, when you asked the guy how to solve the problem, you could've introduced yourself and asked if you wanted to check answers just like he did to the girl behind him. If you're too shy to do any of the things I suggested, I'd suggest for you to try to be less shy (trust me, I know this sounds horrible because I'm really shy too) but my boyfriend and I met in class when I made this stupid joke with my friend (who I'm normally not quiet with). At first, I was shy but eventually warmed up to him. So, just (or try to) pretend that the guy is a friend that you've known for a long time. Hope this helps, good luck!0