Ik I'm not rh thee most prettiest girl around but I've never thought I was ugly or horrible looking. I'm a very small girl at only 4'10 and around 80 pounds. I'm not skinny but I'm not fat either, I guess you could say I still have a little baby fat maybe around my cheeks and my tummy isn't completely flat but it's close. I dress what I think is cute, I love bright colors like pinks and bright blues and I prefer dresses... sometimes close to maybe pastel lolitas. It's a Japanese style that I adore. But I've always had low self-esteem about how I look and it hurts being called ugly and I'm beginning to not even thibk I'm attractive at all and my boyfriend deserves someone better at this point. And it's really hurting how I feel about myself
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You're not ugly. But if other people telling you you're ugly is enough to get you down like that, even to the point of rethinking your boyfriend, then maybe what's making you feel bad is that your brain feels like you're not putting enough effort into looking your best?
If you know, for sure, that you have done everything possible to look as good as you possibly can, then it wouldn't matter what anyone said. If someone calls me an idiot, I just flip them off or ignore them, and it doesn't bother me; because I know that I've spent a lot of time developing my ideas. Ultimately, people will say "Don't care about what others say." But I don't agree with that totally. If people are just being dicks, then sure, let the haters hate. But I also think that it's good to get some positive social feedback, like here right? I don't think there's anything wrong with measuring yourself by other's standards, in *some* ways.
But, what really matters is how you feel about yourself. And clearly, you are not feeling too well right now. And everyone feels down on themselves from time to time, like they're not good enough somehow. That's your brain saying "We need to improve." (It does that a fucking lot) So, if you do everything you can to improve, your brain will leave you alone. If you just say "Oh, well, fuck those guys." Then your brain will always keep that with it; and it will come back again. Your brain will drive you insane until you listen to it. The only option you have is trying to ignore it or distract it, or giving in and putting in as much effort as possible to make it stop annoying you.
So, you've got some baby fat. That is something you recognize and seemingly do not like. Adjust your diet and try to get rid of it. Research and develop a good diet. Dump the sodas and fast food and processed garbage. That's really all you need to do. Then have a cheat meal once a week so you don't burn out.
Throwing on just a bit of makeup would help a lot, too.
But you have a boyfriend, right? How could you have a boyfriend if you were ugly?
And I really really just can't believe you're 22. If that profile picture is you, you really do look like you're 12. If you are--and I'm not saying you are--then a lot of this will just be development. You'll just have to give it some time, and you'll grow out of that baby fat.0
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Most Helpful Girl
If your picture is of you, I feel really shit saying this but you look... Boring.
You aren't ugly.
But your picture has nothing that grabs me, no smile, no glint of an eye. I worked in a photography studio so I really have seen it all. But from your photo you loon a crushed woman.
I think you need to explore yourself. Find a passion or rekindle one and take a new picture and let me see you for all you are.0
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