I've lost 20 kg in the past year, I used to be very overweight 94 kg and I'm 169cm tall. Now I weight 74 on a good day. I still consider myself overweight and I don't feel attractive. My life improved a lot, I socialise a lot more now, but I'm still not completely satisfied with my social life.
I was wondering if anyone's lost a substantial amount of weight on here and how it has affected your life. Did your friendship circle grow?
Most Helpful Guy
Apart from anything else you should feel healthier and better about yourself which may lead to more confidence which helps with making friends - There are many things that affect your social life - The way I look at it is that it more than likely won't harm your social life and you will feel healthier.0
Most Helpful Girl
Dear. Congratulations on getting one more step closer to be healthy, and with less risk of having cardiac problems, diabetes etc. It is a great thing that you are able to lose weight for your well-being.
I think you should not feel unhappy about how you look, and do not discourage yourself by thinking you feel that way. Your beauty is your heart and mind, and behaviors. Not how you look, or how you will look like. If you have people around you who became your friend because you lose weight, it means they will leave you once you gain weight, and they are not your true friends. So do not think of having gained or lost weight gives you friends. Do lose weight only for your health.
But your social circle will grow for sure. I am sure there were activities you could not do before, because of shortage of breath etc maybe, now you can try those. You can attend the different programs and courses which require fit body like your new self. This will help grow your social circle: getting involved with more people in different kinds of activities.
I hope i make sense between the differences of these two things.
Maybe my case was not as similar to yours, but I may still give as an example. I myself was never over 65 kg, and I am 160 cm. So in general i was an average person. My normal weight is 53. Once I reach 65 (first year of college) I had hard time and easily got tired. I even refused to do things like snowboarding, hiking, climbing trips. And this was preventing me from meeting new people. Also, I was less self-confident because of the belly I grew and so I refused to go to beach in that year I gained weight, and I had not met a lot of summer people, because you can meet them while playing beach volley etc.
So, losing weight definitely helps you be more confident and involved with active life style and helps you meet new people through these activities. But be careful of people who are with you just because of your looks, not personality.0