I asked my boyfriend if my boobs look a bit bigger in this picture and he said yes and then proceeded talking about other stuff without saying anything else. He didn't tell me if I look sexy or beautiful. He never really gives feedback on pictures of me except for saying it looks "great" which isn't the word I want to hear.
He does tell me I'm beautiful in person. But he never compliments anything specific about me. It would be nice to know what he thinks of how I look in certain pictures of me.
I know this probably seems really stupid, vain and all other bad things. But I'm an insecure girl and I don't want to feel like I have to ask other people for compliments because my boyfriend doesn't give me much.
It sometimes makes me wonder if he does really find me attractive. When I get all dolled up for special events like a birthday party, my friends would give me more compliments than he would.
I guess he's also not really that type of guy. And I don't want to ask him to change his ways and compliment me more because 1. It won't be sincere and 2. I don't believe in changing people.
Ehh... this post turned out to be a lot different than I first intended it to be
Most Helpful Guy
your a great girl and very attractive.
The insecurity thing needs to be addressed within yourself, please get counseling. No guy can fill that void. That is very normal for a girl to want to be complemented, desired, and hear she is beautiful... all normal. But insecure... needs addressed inside.
He sounds shy and introverted... common issues for a guy who is wounded internally. He needs his own healing if so. he may be insecure himself or not into you, can't tell.
But yes, he needs to learn to complement you and what you need. He needs to just let go... not easy to learn. I had challenges with that for a while. The problem may be that he thinks if he says things like that, then he's making a lot of commitment he isn't ready for, so he holds back. He may not undersatnd what girls need to hear. It also may be your relationship is emotionally strained.
He has his own insecurities and needs to grow, learn, and develop. Counseling help him as well.
you are very well balanced to ask the question as you did, I like how you wrote it.0
Most Helpful Girl
anyway... if you're unsatisfied with the attention he gives you, talk to him. Tell him you need more attention, that you like it a lot, etc. If he reacts badly to it, maybe he's not the right kind of guy for you.4