Oh my gosh! FB is not the be-all-and-end-all, get over it!
Oh my gosh! FB is not the be-all-and-end-all, get over it!
I think they would kinda mind.
If he is a daily Facebook user and his profile says Single, then WTF. If it doesn't say anything at all, fine. If he rarely uses Facebook, maybe that's okay. It doesn't have to say Dating, but if it says single, he'd better have a damn good reason. In the end tho, its a webpage. One you can chat to girls on... ;)
I don't have a relationship statusb on my Facebook because it creates drama for your girlfriend or byfriend.. I think its best to keep it off. That's how relationships last longer
She will be after he sees that! O dayum!
I don't think it should matter. If she feels comfortable telling people that she is in a relationship then so be it if not then so what. Some people don't want other people to know all their business. It has nothing to do with being embarrassed its just that sometimes when people find out that you are in a relationship they talk about you & ask you too many questions like how did yall meet? what did yall do on your dates? are yall having sex? how do your parents feel about yall together? etc. it's just too much to handle when people are all in your business.
I'm not a guy and I would very much mind.
Well I'm not a guy but if a guy I was seriously dating displayed his status as single and I knew that he logged onto his Facebook regularly, then yes I'd have a problem with it.
I'd expect most guys to not care...yeah it's shady, but it's Facebook. That is sad...
I think this goes for guys and girls- if a relationship status is blank, that's OK. If you just recently started dating, or being in a en exclusive relationship and you keep it on 'single' for a few weeks in, no biggie. If you've been with them a while, they do update their fb regularly, and it says 'single'...Yeah that's not OK. If they want to keep their relationships private, they can remove the status entirely. By staying 'single' it makes them look available to other men/women, which shouldn't be encouraged when in a relationship.
Well I don't know about guys, but personally I would be VERY upset if I was dating/seriously dating a guy and his status still said 'single'. If I'm with you/your with me, then your not single and neither am I.
but to some people single = not married.
I know that it'd drive my boyfriend nuts. I'm not so sure why, but I know it'd upset me too if his were single while we were dating. Not sure why, but that's just how it is. Probably because so many people use Facebook as a way to look up their crushes and see if they're taken. If the status is "single" then they could flirt with that person. I'm very confident with the devotion in my relationship, but it'd get annoying for both of us if people kept flirting when we weren't interested.
it's just Facebook. I personally don't have my relationship status up
Having it blank is WAY different than having it say you're "available" when you're not.
If it bothered your partner if your status says "single", would you change it to "in a relationship" if it was an ultimatum-type situation?
=) I think it's cute when the guys says it would bother them. lol.
XD lol =P it's cute if it would bother you hehe
It would bother me.
Now do you think I'm cute? :)
Not really but I'd sure ask her why is it that way without making her feel uncomfortable as much as possible.
If she's looking out she's free to do so, which means she's not convinced with me or my feelings for her. However, I won't rush out looking for another one myself if I am sure she's the one for me nor will I do anything extra to woo her and keep her in place. I'd want her to know and accept me as I am for her when she met me and is with me now.
If she straight out said she was single in a post, then yes.
But if it jus says "Relationship Status: Single" I wouldn't really care. The only problem is I would have to put mine as single too because no one would be me if I just left it as "in a relationship" without the name of the girl I'm in it with.
i would mind her saying she was single. But if I discovered this, I would ask her if that is how she feels, whether she wants to be polyamorous, or what. It's something we would really need to talk over together.
I would think that she's trying to hide it. Which begs the question, why is she hiding it?
Is it just me or do most of the people on her who say "yes" to this poll question seem a little possessive? Why is there a sense of security in knowing that a popular social network states that you're in a relationship with someone and they with you? "If a girl is listed as single on FB she's fair game," and I assume that goes for men as well but who would think of men being fair game? It's not a popular view to see men as a prize to capture, but women are. What am I entailing? It's quite simple actually... those who say "yes" are most likely (not most definitely) one's who view the relationship as "you are mine, and I'm not sharing."
First (situation): no one posses another person. That is an idea that needs to be wiped from everyone's mind. If you feel secure just because a social network says your in a relationship then obviously you do not trust the person outright; this means that the relationship will falter anyways. On another note, even if it's official online there is a chance that the girl/guy you're in a relationship with will still be hit on. This other person whom, I hope, you really care about has their own thoughts, feelings, dreams, life, etc. You cannot control them.
Second (solution): focus on you! If you can be happy whether or not a social network states you two are in a relationship then it is because you love and trust that person (almost; there can be exceptions) unconditionally. You love that person for who they are not because being in a relationship with them and having it "official" online makes you feel more secure! The only thoughts, feelings, dreams, life, etc. you can control are your own; so, if you truly do love and trust that person then you have nothing to worry about.
To sum up: Life is an uncertainty in itself. Why trouble yourself with another worry like whether or not the person you're in a relationship with changes there to "in a relationship" or keeps it at "single"?
It's not that long. Reading the rest may (or may not) change your mind.
I got past the first paragraph. So to answer the question. Yes it is just you. Its misleading and if she just had it at nothing that would be the better.
I don't worry about my status much and I do not expect the girl to, either. Some of the people in my network are actors and other artists, using Facebook to build their fan bases. They would keep the status as Single regardless for professional reasons.
At the other end of the scale we have people who would jitter between "in a relationship", "it's complicated" and "single" depending who won the fight that day, them or their significant other. These same type people would often post public status updates like "hungry" or "hate this traffic", or "some people are just pigs - you know who you are" and so on.
if I got engaged or married I would likely update my status to that effect, and I would expect my girl to do likewise. Anything short of that is single. Getting more granular than that feels silly - it's like next they make it possible to communicate in FB status if you got to a 2nd base or if you fed the girl 3 dinners but no sex yet?
Yes if it's secret
Yes I know it's only a website but I for one feel a little more secure if we're listed as in a relationship (or that she's anything but listed as single to be honest). As I found out from my current girlfriend, evidently one of her 'closest friends' had been trying damn hard to date her and completely gave up once we were listed as together on FB. To him that was the sign that it was legit and not really subject to change, and I feel like a lot of guys would agree with him: If a girl is listed as single on FB she's fair game.
If we're just starting to see where things go, then it's fine. But when we're getting serious, it would make me feel a little uncomfortable about it.
I'm okay with not broadcasting a relationship, but you can have your profile say nothing on the matter, which would be better than lying about the relationship.
Ok ill ask you your own question in my own words.
"YOUR HUSBANDS FACEBOOK STATUS SAYS DIVORCED"
I'd rather us just not have our statuses set to anything.
I wouldn't mind if she wanted to leave it blank (that's what I would do), but saying you're single when you're in a relationship would bother me.
Do people really pay attention to the relationship status on Facebook?
I really don't look at it too much maybe it's because I'm not in any relationship.
Yes, yes they do.
Psssh YEAH it matters to me
Yes I would mind it and I would tell her to please change her status unless she doesn't have any FB account at all. Why use or make an FB account at all if your not responsible enough to dabble with it ><
Yes, because it shows that she doesn't truly care.
For me, a status update on my Facebook page doesn't show how much I care about that person. Yes, you might feel like "shout[ing] it from the mountain tops" that you're now in a relationship; however, which makes you happier: updating your Facebook status so that everyone knows that you've been taken or just knowing that you're in a relationship with someone who makes you feel warm and happy?
Honestly, in my opinion, if you get butt hurt over the other person not changing their status then you either really need to re-evaluate your priorities or you can directly ask the person what their feelings on the matter is. Chances are, the other person will disagree with you on several things. Why get upset when you can just ask, talk about it, and come to an understanding instead? Besides, that's how good relationships work, don't they?
best opinion I've seen so far since I joined this site ^^
Depends on if he uses it often or not. if she doesn't use it often then I wouldn't care. But if she puts time into it every other day, I want my presence known.
If I've asked the girl to be my girlfriend and over the course of at least a week she hasn't changed the status to in a relationship. I'm not going to be very happy. Obviously she's hiding the relationship. As they say, if you are truly happy in your relationship and like the person you are with, you should want to shout it from the mountain tops, not hide it.
Now if it was because of some outside circumstance like a crazy ex Boyfriend or a crazy family. Then I'll be more accepting of it, but even then, that brings up other issues that would need to be addressed.