no & yes. it depends on the situation because not everything is black & white. there are grey scales.
but for what I'm thinking about no, if someone truly loved you, they would not cheat on you. they would think about how their actions would affect you & would do everything in their power to prevent you from emotional & physical harm.
That doesn't mean that their partner is going to be ok with it. It's important to note that sex with other people generally isn't the problem with cheating. It's the deception and dishonesty that is necessary get sex with other people.
FWIW, cheating and unconditional love don't belong in the same sentence. If someone has a problem with cheating, they aren't having unconditional love (since monogamy is, in fact, a condition).
i think that a cheater is extremely selfish as you stated in your updatee. however, I think you can cheat and still love someone. (I have) I was young and didn't understand what it felt like to be hurt and so I didn't think anything of it. is it wrrong to cheat? HELL YEA. but I think you can still love the person...BUT I THINK IF YOU CHEAT, YOU LOVE YOURSELF MORE. and that's the biggest difference.
Also, why do you ask for peoples opinions but then when you don't like the answer you writee things like what true love really is and what is and isn't the correct way of doing things acting as if you know all? don't ask for opinions if you're going to tell people they're wrong and what you say is right.
No, a person can not love someone and also cheat on them. A person who does that does not know what love is. By cheating they hurt the person they love. Would you hurt the person you love? Unless your answer is yes start looking for another man.
I bet if you cheated on him he wouldn't be to happy about it. but then again why lower yourself to play his lame games. A person should just move on and find someone worth their time and respect.
i believe that if on is mature enough to realize the consequences of cheating, then they are ready for a relationship.
if they're confused and they like more attention and want to cheat on their partner, they can deal with their consequences and not expect their partner to forgive.
i've never forgiven a guy for cheating on me; I cut it off immediately-then they realize what they have lost and maybe MAYBE they loved me but it's too late.
But the question would be why cheat in the first place. It can't be love or true love then can it. Sometimes I believe people get so used to the life style and can't be bothered to change and find someone else to compensate for what they missing. This is not just about men as women cheat too!!!!! And women are certainly better at this game than men. So men don't be fooled women know how to play this game too and before you know it they gone. Men will stay but women won't in the end.
Depends. Am I in a serious relationship with this girl, or are we just fuc% buddies? In a serious relationship, NO WAY. If we are just romping in the hay whenever, then it's not a real deal anyway.
That makes sense! Can't argue with that. So a serious relationship means trust and loyalty. and a casual fling means the person is not ready. Do you think then a man/woman should tell the person they with that they not serious to avoid hurting them?I
Interesting comment.!! So that means he'll be guilt free? And that means his trophy girlfriend is just a trophy. Ouch!!!! I wouldn't like to be in her shoes. This type of man then has no love for any one but himself. What do you think?? He's selfish and wants the best of both worlds. But men like that lose both ways in the end. Interesting comment though!!!
You the type of guys we like to hear from. Because it makes us women realise we not crazy believing that. Thanks to you cliffyd159. You a good example to men. You are a real man that deserves only the best !!! wish you all the best. How do you know that BTW.
Thank you for the flattering comment. I know that because I've seen friends that do it to women, I've seen it done to my girl friends (just friends), I could NEVER get behind it because anytime I even LIKE woman I won't do ANYTHING with anyone else. If I love a woman I find her flawless. She is the best thing in this god given world, and to cheat on her would be something I could never do. 10 to 1 says I wouldn't be able to even get it up in a cheating situation. :p
I agree cheating is wrong. I hate to say this but just because you cheat doesn't mean you don't love that person. I know it sounds awful but I honestly believe otherwise.
No. if you care about and love someone then you wouldn't even thiink about cheating. {So if a significant other cheats, then they don't care about their gf/bf}
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I couldn't cheat to my girlfriend (if I had one lol =(...)
if she cheated on me, goddamn would I go hardcore sh*t on her ass. (nothin physical) but yeah, id f*** her life up as much as it seems reasonably revengeful.
Exactly!!! You'd feel like sh*t and used. You'd feel like a failure. You'd feel like crap. You'd feel that everything was a lie and that you could have found someone who really loved you. I feel so sorry for good men when that happens, because men aren't so strong as women. Like I said men cheat but women are better cheaters!!!! I've just been reading somewhere on the internet where women are confessing they having an affair and they partners don't know. Now c'mon what do you think about that!
From experience I can say that yes...at one piont in my relationship iwe hit a low where I felt like everything was just gonna end and that we hated each other and I ended up seeking comfort with another man nothing physical but we had that emotional connection and before anything really happened I confessed to my boyfriend and we worked it out.
So in other words what you saying is that if a relationship is going wrong it's ok to cheat rather than being sincere and loyal and trying to discuss what the problems are and working at it. that's a shame that people can think its ok to do that. where is the respect for that person that you claim to love then? there is no excuse to cheat I'm afraid. because when the relationship goes wrong then you saying it's ok to cheat. I think that's sad because you can't love someone that much!f . I think
What I am saying is that I made a mistake at a really low piont and I came clean about it and we moved on I'm not saying its right to cheat I am saying that sometimes it happens and hopefully. Ur relationship is strong enough to work through it
I know you didn't sleep with this man hun. You could have cheated if you wanted to, but didn't because you loved your man. And that's the whole point of discussing this. Well done for you. So it does prove that if you love someone you won't cheat. I was supporting your first comment by the way :) X
You got that one right!!!!!. Look at Adam and Eve, TEMPTATION made them loose sight of true happiness. It's ok for man or woman to look, but not to want after it or touch it. We only human as therockcomic says but there's a difference between LOVE and LUST. So you are right!!!!! I believe if you going to cheat or want to cheat then it means you need time out to reflect on what you really want. No point staying in a relationship because it suits you or you have lots to loose. It has to be LOVE
Simply- yes, you can cheat AND still love the person you are with at the same time.
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I've cheated on guys I loved, but I wasn't IN LOVE. I don't think you can cheat and be in love, but I always felt guilty and told the guy what had happened.
me and my partner have agreed from day one that rather than cheating on one another we would end the relationship if it ever came to it. If you honestly truly love someone then why would you feel the need to cheat.
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no & yes. it depends on the situation because not everything is black & white. there are grey scales.
but for what I'm thinking about no, if someone truly loved you, they would not cheat on you. they would think about how their actions would affect you & would do everything in their power to prevent you from emotional & physical harm.
Of course it is possible, lots of people do it.
That doesn't mean that their partner is going to be ok with it. It's important to note that sex with other people generally isn't the problem with cheating. It's the deception and dishonesty that is necessary get sex with other people.
FWIW, cheating and unconditional love don't belong in the same sentence. If someone has a problem with cheating, they aren't having unconditional love (since monogamy is, in fact, a condition).
i think that a cheater is extremely selfish as you stated in your updatee. however, I think you can cheat and still love someone. (I have) I was young and didn't understand what it felt like to be hurt and so I didn't think anything of it. is it wrrong to cheat? HELL YEA. but I think you can still love the person...BUT I THINK IF YOU CHEAT, YOU LOVE YOURSELF MORE. and that's the biggest difference.
Also, why do you ask for peoples opinions but then when you don't like the answer you writee things like what true love really is and what is and isn't the correct way of doing things acting as if you know all? don't ask for opinions if you're going to tell people they're wrong and what you say is right.
No, a person can not love someone and also cheat on them. A person who does that does not know what love is. By cheating they hurt the person they love. Would you hurt the person you love? Unless your answer is yes start looking for another man.
I bet if you cheated on him he wouldn't be to happy about it. but then again why lower yourself to play his lame games. A person should just move on and find someone worth their time and respect.
i believe that if on is mature enough to realize the consequences of cheating, then they are ready for a relationship.
if they're confused and they like more attention and want to cheat on their partner, they can deal with their consequences and not expect their partner to forgive.
i've never forgiven a guy for cheating on me; I cut it off immediately-then they realize what they have lost and maybe MAYBE they loved me but it's too late.
hmm well I'm not sure
depends on what kind of person you are (not you)
some guys can love someone and still cheat on them
some are faithful and would never cheat even if they were just in a relationship with a girl that they just like so far
it's all about insecurities
But the question would be why cheat in the first place. It can't be love or true love then can it. Sometimes I believe people get so used to the life style and can't be bothered to change and find someone else to compensate for what they missing. This is not just about men as women cheat too!!!!! And women are certainly better at this game than men. So men don't be fooled women know how to play this game too and before you know it they gone. Men will stay but women won't in the end.
Good for them then
Nope, if you cheat on someone it pretty much means you were never really serious. The sad part is that people are easily saying, "I love you".
You right!!!! I think some people don't understand what true love is like the dudegutarman below.
Depends. Am I in a serious relationship with this girl, or are we just fuc% buddies? In a serious relationship, NO WAY. If we are just romping in the hay whenever, then it's not a real deal anyway.
That makes sense! Can't argue with that. So a serious relationship means trust and loyalty. and a casual fling means the person is not ready. Do you think then a man/woman should tell the person they with that they not serious to avoid hurting them?I
Not if the guy wants to keep it a secret and keep his "trophy" girlfriend
Interesting comment.!! So that means he'll be guilt free? And that means his trophy girlfriend is just a trophy. Ouch!!!! I wouldn't like to be in her shoes. This type of man then has no love for any one but himself. What do you think?? He's selfish and wants the best of both worlds. But men like that lose both ways in the end. Interesting comment though!!!
I am an honest guy. If you cheat on someone you are a lying ass that truly doesn't care.
You the type of guys we like to hear from. Because it makes us women realise we not crazy believing that. Thanks to you cliffyd159. You a good example to men. You are a real man that deserves only the best !!! wish you all the best. How do you know that BTW.
Thank you for the flattering comment. I know that because I've seen friends that do it to women, I've seen it done to my girl friends (just friends), I could NEVER get behind it because anytime I even LIKE woman I won't do ANYTHING with anyone else. If I love a woman I find her flawless. She is the best thing in this god given world, and to cheat on her would be something I could never do. 10 to 1 says I wouldn't be able to even get it up in a cheating situation. :p
I agree cheating is wrong. I hate to say this but just because you cheat doesn't mean you don't love that person. I know it sounds awful but I honestly believe otherwise.
No. if you care about and love someone then you wouldn't even thiink about cheating. {So if a significant other cheats, then they don't care about their gf/bf}
I couldn't cheat to my girlfriend (if I had one lol =(...)
if she cheated on me, goddamn would I go hardcore sh*t on her ass. (nothin physical) but yeah, id f*** her life up as much as it seems reasonably revengeful.
Exactly!!! You'd feel like sh*t and used. You'd feel like a failure. You'd feel like crap. You'd feel that everything was a lie and that you could have found someone who really loved you. I feel so sorry for good men when that happens, because men aren't so strong as women. Like I said men cheat but women are better cheaters!!!! I've just been reading somewhere on the internet where women are confessing they having an affair and they partners don't know. Now c'mon what do you think about that!
I wouldn't feel like a failure. She's the failure here lol.
OMG.....*whew* I"m still laughing. hahahaha. OMG
Well to me its a self control issue..if you really love someone, that should give you enough willpower to say "no" to a booty call
no, if you really truly love someone you don't even see anyone else like that...the only one you see in any kind of sexual way is the one you love
absolutely not! if you really love someone then you have respect for them and if you have respect for them then you absolutely would not cheat!
Go Girl!!!!!!! Well said!
From experience I can say that yes...at one piont in my relationship iwe hit a low where I felt like everything was just gonna end and that we hated each other and I ended up seeking comfort with another man nothing physical but we had that emotional connection and before anything really happened I confessed to my boyfriend and we worked it out.
So in other words what you saying is that if a relationship is going wrong it's ok to cheat rather than being sincere and loyal and trying to discuss what the problems are and working at it. that's a shame that people can think its ok to do that. where is the respect for that person that you claim to love then? there is no excuse to cheat I'm afraid. because when the relationship goes wrong then you saying it's ok to cheat. I think that's sad because you can't love someone that much!f . I think
What I am saying is that I made a mistake at a really low piont and I came clean about it and we moved on I'm not saying its right to cheat I am saying that sometimes it happens and hopefully. Ur relationship is strong enough to work through it
I know you didn't sleep with this man hun. You could have cheated if you wanted to, but didn't because you loved your man. And that's the whole point of discussing this. Well done for you. So it does prove that if you love someone you won't cheat. I was supporting your first comment by the way :) X
no. if he loves you, he wouldn't want to be with any one but you.
You got that one right!!!!!. Look at Adam and Eve, TEMPTATION made them loose sight of true happiness. It's ok for man or woman to look, but not to want after it or touch it. We only human as therockcomic says but there's a difference between LOVE and LUST. So you are right!!!!! I believe if you going to cheat or want to cheat then it means you need time out to reflect on what you really want. No point staying in a relationship because it suits you or you have lots to loose. It has to be LOVE
Simply- yes, you can cheat AND still love the person you are with at the same time.
I've cheated on guys I loved, but I wasn't IN LOVE. I don't think you can cheat and be in love, but I always felt guilty and told the guy what had happened.
me and my partner have agreed from day one that rather than cheating on one another we would end the relationship if it ever came to it. If you honestly truly love someone then why would you feel the need to cheat.