On the surface, it seems that more men than ever have no interest in marriage.
It's true that marriage rates are declining and more people are delaying marriage until they're older. But why is that?
Most people will tell you that it's because of everything that men stand to lose in a divorce -- half their money and assets, the kids, and the family life they dreamed of having. That's the logical reason for delaying or avoiding marriage. However, marriage hasn't been a logical decision in Western culture for decades. It's an emotional decision.
The real reason that men are losing interest in marriage is because we've realized that we don't have to get married to get the life we want. Sadly for women, men have the upper-hand in the marriage market and we are waking up to this fact.
Men Have More Options Than Women
Let's be real here. There's no shortage of young, attractive women that want to get married. If we don't find a girl that would make a great wife this year, millions of girls will graduate college and hit the market next year.
However, there is a shortage of guys that make great candidates for husbands. We can blame it on a number of things, but that's the sad reality.
Men Become Better Marriage Candidates With Age (To a Certain Point)
As men age, we get wiser, we become better leaders, and we are more established in our careers to provide a better life for our potential families. The younger we get married, the less value we have in the dating market. The longer we wait, the better wife we can get.
Men can produce offspring far later in life than women can, so there's no rush for us to get married. Women on the other hand, have a shorter biological clock for fertility.
We Can Have Our Cake and Eat It Too
As a result from the points I mentioned above, men can spend their 20's sleeping with all the women they want, then get married and have a family in their 30's.
It's well-documented throughout history that men have a natural desire for multiple sexual partners. However, there are plenty of us guys that still want to be an amazing husband and father. In the past, we were forced to pick one lifestyle or the other. Now we can have both. (Not at the same time, of course.)
The logical argument against marriage makes sense and is definitely worthy of consideration, but personally I think this is just an excuse that guys use to hide the real reason they don't want to get married in their 20's. We don't have to.