Marriage is a stress that I would never want to deal with in my life. I just see more happier singles than married couples. That being said, I'm also a very emotional person and have a lot of love to give. If I ever found the right girl for me I'd go ham over her. But I listen to what I find most logical for me and marriage isn't logical for me right now.
Your problem is not marriage, which is of God. Your issue is with human selfishness, which undermines and destroys everything in its path, including marriage. Suggesting iniquity - which is also selfish- as a remedy, is insanity. Instead of getting rid of marriage, we need to repent of Hedonism, stop mistreating the abstinent, and self examine before we marry, so we do not do so for all the wrong reasons. It is on loan to us. It is not our toy to use literally however we see fit.
I cannot wrap my head around spending the cost of a car on a wedding. I got married at the justice of the peace, and didn’t spend any where near that. It makes no sense to me. Those people are usually the ones to divorce anyway
@BelleGirl21 So does any normal relationship. I'm a firm believer that "If you love something, let it go. If it comes back it was always yours. If it doesn’t, it never was."
Wedding is very expensive now. I am bride-to-be. And I don't want luxury ceremony, we simply don't have so much money. So, we decided to take a small loan online and make little celebration with tea and cakes. I hope my family and friends will not think that we are greedy.
It's a beautiful little ceremony that we earthlings have created.
Do you ever go to a fantasy park and not try the most exciting ride?
Don't miss out on this ride as well, it'll be full if ups and downs but you'll look back and say , "Whoa , I did that" and the satisfaction would be priceless.
Spoken like a person who gets it. Marriage in itself is at best useless and at worst a massive liability. It's just culturally ingrained and encouraged by the government.
You dont have to go to school and get a job, but you probably should if you don't want to be waiting tables your entire life. Which, if you've never had the pleasure of doing, really sucks.
People's marriages end because they live their lives devoid of morals or religion, so when you are unhappy that is the only reason you need to jump the ship.
You'll find as you get older that people who run away from responsibility live very sad lives.
If you want to be an athlete or musician, you have to be the best of the best to even be considered, that's no guarantee you won't wash out. To be an artist you just have to be trendy, pretentious, and ironic - no technical skill required.
I used to want to be a musician, but then I realized that I wasn't good enough to be successful. I decided going to college was probably a better choice than playing in sleezy bars and sleeping on couches
that's total bullshit, but i will not do the work of arguing against that because fortunately some people in their right mind have already debunked each one of those claims as @OlderAndWiser have done below
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Well, marriage is a sign of commitment to start a family and raise children. I'm sure many women just want to feel secure. An unmarried relationship just can't provide the same level of security that marriage can bring. Also, if the marriage is fully legal, you get legal benefits, because the government will recognize your marriage and your relationship to the other person has a household. This has lots of social consequences.
I think people should talk about every single topic they can before they get married. I think divorce happens because people assume too much about each other.
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Kids is the reason for marriage. I mean if you don't get married who's last name should they get? When I wasn't married with my first I gave him my last name but a lot of guys would take issue with that... which I don't get why having a penis gives you automatic name rights. When we got married both me and our son switched our last names to his but if I could go back in time we would have combined our last names right off the bat instead of just canceling mine out.
All true. But I have been married 29 years and it, my wife and kids now, are the best part of my life. I would have left if I wasn't married and ot would have been a mistake.
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As long as you know who your marrying and take your time getting to know the person then you'll be ok. however getting to know a person does not mean they were your friends for 4-10years before dating but that you dated the person for a long time. because a person can be a really good friend but really bad at relationship. aka my ex girlfriend we broke up over something so small.. and i can't belive how immuture shewas.
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Marriage is a stress that I would never want to deal with in my life. I just see more happier singles than married couples. That being said, I'm also a very emotional person and have a lot of love to give. If I ever found the right girl for me I'd go ham over her. But I listen to what I find most logical for me and marriage isn't logical for me right now.
Your problem is not marriage, which is of God. Your issue is with human selfishness, which undermines and destroys everything in its path, including marriage. Suggesting iniquity - which is also selfish- as a remedy, is insanity. Instead of getting rid of marriage, we need to repent of Hedonism, stop mistreating the abstinent, and self examine before we marry, so we do not do so for all the wrong reasons. It is on loan to us. It is not our toy to use literally however we see fit.
I cannot wrap my head around spending the cost of a car on a wedding. I got married at the justice of the peace, and didn’t spend any where near that. It makes no sense to me. Those people are usually the ones to divorce anyway
This take was for immature people with commitment issues and who are probably bad at relationships...
Rest of us all concentrate on keeping our marriages alive and work in it... :-)
Well said!
No offense but I'd rather be with a person who every day chooses to be with me by coming home rather than someone who feels she must.
@BelleGirl21 I know right ! ;-)
@Redshift marriage rarely feels that way. Most of the time you love love the person and want to be with them.
@BelleGirl21 So does any normal relationship. I'm a firm believer that "If you love something, let it go. If it comes back it was always yours. If it doesn’t, it never was."
@Redshift I don't think the two have to be mutually exclusive. Different things work for different people
Wedding is very expensive now. I am bride-to-be. And I don't want luxury ceremony, we simply don't have so much money. So, we decided to take a small loan online and make little celebration with tea and cakes. I hope my family and friends will not think that we are greedy.
I can see the benefits of marriage when it comes to medical concerns, taxes, step children etc.
I think instead of saying "stop getting married" you should say stop getting married so soon and devaluing the committment.
It's a beautiful little ceremony that we earthlings have created.
Do you ever go to a fantasy park and not try the most exciting ride?
Don't miss out on this ride as well, it'll be full if ups and downs but you'll look back and say , "Whoa , I did that" and the satisfaction would be priceless.
And your wallet would be empty.
@ThisDudeHere nothing is free
Spoken like a person who gets it. Marriage in itself is at best useless and at worst a massive liability. It's just culturally ingrained and encouraged by the government.
You dont have to go to school and get a job, but you probably should if you don't want to be waiting tables your entire life. Which, if you've never had the pleasure of doing, really sucks.
People's marriages end because they live their lives devoid of morals or religion, so when you are unhappy that is the only reason you need to jump the ship.
You'll find as you get older that people who run away from responsibility live very sad lives.
People who let school and conformity take over them live very sad lives. You don't have to go to school to be an athlete or an artist or a musician.
If you want to be an athlete or musician, you have to be the best of the best to even be considered, that's no guarantee you won't wash out. To be an artist you just have to be trendy, pretentious, and ironic - no technical skill required.
I used to want to be a musician, but then I realized that I wasn't good enough to be successful. I decided going to college was probably a better choice than playing in sleezy bars and sleeping on couches
that's total bullshit, but i will not do the work of arguing against that because fortunately some people in their right mind have already debunked each one of those claims as @OlderAndWiser have done below
Well, marriage is a sign of commitment to start a family and raise children. I'm sure many women just want to feel secure. An unmarried relationship just can't provide the same level of security that marriage can bring. Also, if the marriage is fully legal, you get legal benefits, because the government will recognize your marriage and your relationship to the other person has a household. This has lots of social consequences.
I think people should talk about every single topic they can before they get married. I think divorce happens because people assume too much about each other.
Kids is the reason for marriage. I mean if you don't get married who's last name should they get? When I wasn't married with my first I gave him my last name but a lot of guys would take issue with that... which I don't get why having a penis gives you automatic name rights. When we got married both me and our son switched our last names to his but if I could go back in time we would have combined our last names right off the bat instead of just canceling mine out.
I'm against the European tradition of marriage ans it's everything you mentioned people marry to divorce and have a huge ridiculous wedding.
All true. But I have been married 29 years and it, my wife and kids now, are the best part of my life. I would have left if I wasn't married and ot would have been a mistake.
As long as you know who your marrying and take your time getting to know the person then you'll be ok. however getting to know a person does not mean they were your friends for 4-10years before dating but that you dated the person for a long time. because a person can be a really good friend but really bad at relationship. aka my ex girlfriend we broke up over something so small.. and i can't belive how immuture shewas.
I've seen more then enough to prove that this is false I'll take my chances on marriage and the person I intend to share it with thank you.
no way this was written by a woman. But yes, marriage is fucking stupid.
Lmao believe it or not I am in fact a woman
why such exaggerated response? Is it because of my pic?
I wasn't really thinking about it too harshly
It's crazy that so many women stop working then the family struggles as it grows and only one person's income in contributing to maintaining life.
I'm going to respond to this later. Remind me, please.
It's later
@tyber1 Thanks for reminding me. I agree to the above - but only to a point.