A middle aged man who loves his wife and kids and makes happy life for them also in a relationship with a girl who is very younger than him.
So if this man always cares about his family and they are his first priority and the other is not more important than his wife.
Do you think he is cheating? And if he is cheating do he deserve it as a reward for taking care of her family?
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If his wife knows and is cool with it, it isn't cheating.
If she doesn't know, then it is. Also he's not making his family his first priority. He's making himself his first priority.
If his wife was to find out she'd be heartbroken. She might divorce him, his children may go through a horrible custody battle, who knows. Or she knows and doesn't say anything for the kids sake, instead she grows to resent him and feels not only humiliated but insecure because he prefers a younger woman. The children know what's up and lose total respect for him.
Because cheating isn't looking after anyone, that isn't caring about them. If he sees his family as a chore, if caring for them is an activity he needs to be rewarded for, then he clearly doesn't care for them at all. He simply uses his alleged "caregiver" status to justify his affair to himself, because deep down he knows he's a bad person.2