I support it I want to know you're opinion on this.
Do you support gay marriage and gay people having children?
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I see a lot of people are using God as a reason why gay marriage is wrong, but I don't
think that's right. I'm Catholic and I went to Catholic school, as did my parents, as did their parents.
And, I can promise all this bible stuff and stuff that people say "God, wouldn't want". Was
never taught to me in school or by my parents. I learned marriage was about love and wanting
to spend your life with that person and that's why you get married, because you can't imagine
living without them. The God I learned about, loves everybody no matter what. Judges no one.
Accepts everyone. And, all he asks in return is that you treat others how you want to be treated.
That you don't judge others. And, you live and let live. Also, that when you're lost and need guidence. You can pray to him and he will help you find your way. That's what I learned.
Now, with that in mind. I also learned that God created ALL people (no exceptions). I also know
that people are born gay. So, I'm no Einstein. But, if God created all people and your born gay.
That means, he created gay people to. So, why would he be against the people he created
getting married and having a child? The God I learned about, wouldn't be against that. Also,
the bible is a interurption of God's wishes. But, we don't actually no what he did or didn't want.
So, it's not right for us to attach his name to things we don't even know he's against. I find that to
be offensive. We can't use his name everytime we don't understand a person or there lifestyle.
So, yes I do support gay people getting married and having kids. They have the right, just like
the rest of us. And, just remember. It could have went the other way where being straight was
ab-normal and being gay or lesbian was normal. Which would mean, we couldn't get married or have kids. And, personally I wouldn't want people telling me I couldn't marry the man I love or have
kids with him, just because they think it's "Immoral".6
I'm probably also going to be hated for giving my opinion, but I don't mind.
Marriage is biblical in origin, many may try to argue this point with me, but I have looked at it in theological college, where it is proven that that comment is true. Marriage is not simply about two people who love one another making a legal promise to one another...
It is the union of a man, a woman, and GOD. Not two individuals, but three.
So I am confused as to why many gay individuals want to enter marriage if it involves uniting with someone if the opposite gender, and with God. That just doesn't make sense. I'm not saying that all homosexuals are not Christian... but let's face it, the majority are not.
I don't have a problem with homosexuals. I know what the bible days about it, and I also know what the Bible tells me to do too: not judge another, and to love my neighbour.
I will love, and treat a homosexual person exactly the same way as a heterosexual, they are no different... they are both my neighbours.
Homosexuals already have the right to have civil unions, which is infact a committed promise to one another, under the law. So I do not understand why this isn't good enough, and why they feel the need to change something of biblical origin and definition.
As for homosexuals having children... no I don't think that is right either. It is wrong to intentionally bring a child into the world without both a loving, responsible, devoted mother and father. NOTE: I mentioned loving, responsible and devoted... so it is also wrong to intentionally bring a child into the world with negligent, abusive, un-loving heterosexual parents also.
I'm sure my comment will attract a lot of "dislikes"... If it makes you feel any better, then Go ahead, it really doesn't bother me at all.10
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It really pisses me off when people are so offended by this. Like I don't care go be gay go be a lesbian go get married NO BIG DEAL. It's not bothering anyone else... After all we live in the 21st century are we really going to sit here and get pissy because two females want to marry or two males!.. Marriage is about love and if two people love each other then why shouldn't they share the same rights as a male and a female. And if they want to have kids I'm all for it let them have a family. There's too many children out there that should have the right to a family too and it shouldn't be based upon the fact a couple is gay to be parents. There parents either way.. I just don't see why the us has such a hard time accepting the fact that it's not all black and white... I try not to comment on these types of topics because people annoy the shit out of me with their religious bullshit. sorry to anyone that is religious and that finds what I'm saying offensive but my opinion let love be love it's not hurting you.8
It's not about whether you have a penis or vagina, it's about how the parent, as an INDIVIDUAL parents, and all parents are different. There are four different parenting styles: authoritative, authoritarian, permissive and negligent. It doesn't matter who you are married to, we are all individuals and the way we bring up our children is all different. How ignorant would it be to stop a whole group of people from parenting when many of them didn't even do anything wrong, just being boxed in because you are married to a person with the same genitalia as yourself? Seems counter-intuitive to me.2
Yes, I do. Both of those things.
The fact that so many children are not taken care of, and the fact that letting gay couples adopt is not very common is a disgrace.6
YES! I do. I even have gay friends. I have gay celebrities that I like. One of my closest friends is gay. Love is love, no matter the gender. Sure, have your beliefs, but at least respect their decisions. I believe in God, I pray , but I really don't care if people say I'm going to hell for even saying I have no problem against gay marriage. You have different taste people may not like, either music, food, religion stuff like that. It's the same thing. Respect it. I find it so stupid that there are so many narrow-minded people who try to contradict us. Fine don't like it, at least ignore it.
And I also don't find a problem in gay people having children. Please, the things some of them go through make them strong and really caring, they would make amazing parents. And there are different gender couples who suck at being parents. WORST EVER> and I even have examples around me. Just because the parents are the same gender, doesn't mean the child will also have a different sexual orientation or be thought that women are bad or men are bad. Gay people don't hate the other gender, they're just not attracted to it. (well some may do, but not all) .
BUT the problem is that the child may be bullied for having same gender parents, because let's face it... people are mean... We're no far from animals when it comes to this... So it's kind of complicated. You should check Wentworth Miller's speech on getting out of the closet. Genius.
So maybe the Bible says something, maybe it doesn't. Wrong or right, love is love. Don't agree, at least ignore them and respect their decision.
That's it. I don't like these questions because they create so much controversy.2
Yes I support both completely. It won't "turn kids gay" (I hear that a lot). Not all straight parents have straight kids, not all gay parents have gay kids. Gay parents can be excellent parents, there's plenty of evidence to support that.
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It's called human rights isn't it? I mean last i checked we are all human and we are no different so what's the big deal? I don't see why they can't have the same rights as us. Honestly it seems like some people think that being gay is a new thing when it has been around since practically forever. I studied ancient greece and rome and in all the myths and stories homosexual relationships or flings were normal. I don't see why we have gone from not being bothered about it to having massive protests about it, i mean imagine if you had to protest to get the rights to marry the person you love. We are over populated, and there is no way we would become under populated so there is no issue with that especially with the way technology is developing, i mean we are probably a few years away from being able to click a button and be impregnated.
Love is love, no matter what.2
Yes and yes. Who fucking cares if they get married? It doesn't bother your life if some gay couple gets married. There are nothing wrong if both of them are adults who love each other. Why do other people have to care what others do if it doesn't hurt anyone. Only homosexuals spreading aids is a myth. Homosexuals being child molesters is myth and its just ridiculous how far some people can go when they are trying to stop 2 adults getting married.
And the adoption, there are fucking orphains everywhere looking for loving home and instead of giving them to a loving couple should they rotten in orphanage? Child needing both maternal and paternal role is bullshit. I know one young man raused by 2 women and he is intelligent, kind, polite and dating a girl. So he didn't turn into a homosexual. Im also raised by single mother and I'm good without any fucking paternal role.3
There are so many things in the world (and in our country) to have an issue with. We shouldn't be making a big deal about who someone wants to marry. Why shouldn't they be happy. As for them having children, why not? Millions of children need homes and as long as the children grow up in a healthy environments everything is good.4
I'm going to get hate for this, but oh well. I think gay people shouldn't have kids. Kids raised by gay parents grow up confused and they have psychological issues later on in life. A child needs a mother and a father in order to develop right. When it comes to gay marriage I'm not sure and really have no opinion on that.8
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I support both completely. I honestly hate controversial questions like this. They ruffle so many feathers. I respect everyone's opinions on it as long as it's logical. I also don't think religion is a fair back up. Not everyone is the same religion. No one has to follow your rules. They aren't homosexual to spite you. A child shouldn't be denied a home because the parents are gay. It's childish. I used to be against it. I was a younger and just viewed it as wrong. I have completely changed and would honestly get in a fist fight with dear friend over it. I can see why some people don't support it, however, no one is forcing you to be support it. When someone tries to stick it up your ass, yeah maybe you could be a little fussy. Otherwise, it's not your business. Yes, I do believe everyone should have both a father and mother figure. Some many children today don't, but at least they would have two. It's better than having none at all.1
100% support both4
Yes. I lose respect for people who say no to either of these questions. Who are you to dictate whether or not two consenting adults who are in love with each other have the right to be able to spends the rest of their lives together? Who are you to say they can't introduce their partner as their husband? Who are you to say that they can't be parents - and the best damn ones around? Screw a male and female figure. Single parents are everywhere. It's not the sex of your parents but how they decide to raise you. Equality for all.2
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Yeah I support it but I don't support stupid people having kids and neglecting & abusing them. If idiots like this this can have kids and get married why can't gay people who are NORMAL do this as well? It's kind of ignorant to say no, even though my beliefs as a Catholic says its wrong, has me all twisted like its also wrong to judge soooooo... ahhh I say go ahead and do it. :)3
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I support both 100%5
its their lives... i don't mind3
Yes I believe they should... and for that guy that claims it's "confusing" I know people with gay parents who are just fine, and are straight... Straight parents can have gay kids, and gay parents can have straight kids... Also, do you think it's wrong for single parents to have kids, when there is no father/mother figure in their lives?2
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Absolutely! Love isn't something we can control and anyone can do whatever they want with their lives. I don't get why so many people are upset about gay marriage, I mean, how does two men's love affect a bunch of strangers' lives? Why do they care if according to their beliefs that's a sin? Just let them sin then, it's got nothing to do with you. And anyway, judging and hating others is something the Bible tells you not to do, if I'm correct. If God didn't want gay people to exist, then he would get rid of them with his endless powers but he created them and he loves all humans, doesn't he?0
If that's how they want to live there life I could really care less. We shouldn't control love, marriages, etc. Everyone is entitled to feel the way they do, it's not right.4
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1. I have gay friends who have got their kids through surrogacy (mostly from Thailand) and I guess it's ok :)
2. Nature intends procreation which is why lust, sex etc
3. If nature didn't intend procreation this way, it would never have allowed it to happen (something similar to drafting one plant onto another etc)
4. The only thing however, the kid may miss one parent of the other gender (similar but not as bad as divorced parents)
5. Marriage on the other hand is a social institution with religion supporting to strengthen it
6. If 2 or more people are committed to one another completely, the institution of marriage is only one for celebration
7. If people aren't committed to one another then we have divorces as proof :)
8. Marriage was created for social / ethical reasons to support the responsibility of family & children, to keep unity & togetherness alive
9. If for that reason people of the same gender want to get married, I think it's justified :)1
Yeah, I support all of it. My buddy from college and his partner got a surrogate and they now have twins, and they're PHENOMENAL parents. Also my aunt is... well, we never really discussed how she identifies... but long story short, she married a man back in the 60s, had my two cousins, her husband died, and then she was in a relationship with a woman until that woman died two years ago. Her partner stepped into a parent role, all this when the kids were about 11 and 14. My cousins are very successful and well-adjusted people, now in their 40s. For what its worth to the crowd that fears "gay recruitment", both of them are in straight marriages.
Anybody can succeed or suck at parenting, gay, straight, whatever.0
Gay marriage? Since marriage is a religious covenant it should be completely up to the religion who are marrying you, not the government
Gays having kids? It's already legal in my country. I don't necessarily agree with gays having kids, but then again I don't agree with teens having kids, or drug addicts, or alcoholics, you get the idea. The fact is that whether homosexuality is good for the child or not is still up for debate. Psychologists, sociologists and scientists are weighing up the pros and cons of homosexual parenthood. I'm down with whatever is best for the kids being raised, because I care about the society I will live in and my future children will live in. Therefore I'm not really going to look at one study that supports it and be like "yeah its totally a great thing and isn't harmful at all". I don't really know, so I'm skeptic. I guess gay people could maybe live up to the ideals of parenthood, if they did then I'd be fine with it5
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Considering the way heterosexual people often fail in educating and loving their children , I don't think homosexual people can do worse.
The only reason that's given against gay marriage is a religious, biblical one. I don't think our laws should be inspired by religion and by a 15-25 centuries old book.
Nobody, no law forces believers to marry people of the same gender.
Those who can't accept that should move to Iran, Afghanistan, Saudi Arabia or Vatican city.2
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Sure do. They have the same rights as we do don't they?
Love this quote regarding it..."I have to explain what to do during a school shooting to my 7yr old, but by all means lets freak out about gay marriage".5
And I don't support it or oppose it either. If love is what they seek and the only way to find it is by finding a same sex partner then so be it. I won't judge anymore. I used to think differently before but I understand these are people like you and I that desire love.3
No to gay marriage because Marriage is a vow towards God period hate him or love him. Believe or disbelieve but it is in his book where Marriage come from and we shall respect it. As American should people be free to do what they please yes of course. But the fact is that Marriage is God's gift to mankind and in that bible its has laws. Why can't they call it something else and make a vow to something else? As for the kids thing I really don't have a problem with it1
Sure, go ahead and marry, i have no problem with it. On the whole having babies thing, I dunno.
Maybe totally depends on how they get the kids, surrogate mother with one of the gay guys being the father, then yeah, I think that might work, because they will have a biological attachment to the kid.
I am kinda uncertain about the whole adoption thing though, i'm not well informed on the subject and it's not something I truly want to put my energy and thoughts around.0
Sure, it's a better option than to be an orphan, or to be in an abusive familiar structure. So I voted yes.3
I'm not gay so whether or not gay marriage is legal or illegal it does not affect me in any way, but I do believe that if two people are in love then there should be nothing stopping them from marrying and obtaining all the legal rights and benefits that come along with it. And anybody should be allowed to have children as long as they are able to provide their child (ren) with love and care. I am of the personal belief that a child ideally should have both a paternal and maternal figure in their life. But its definitely doable, usually the kid (s) will have an aunt, uncle, grandparent, etc., or the parents can name an opposite sex friend a godparent.1
As a Christian I know I'm not perfect. I know I make mistakes and try my best to better myself for the mistakes I've made. In my eyes Only God can determine morality and gay marriage in God's eyes is not morally right so I'm against it. When I do something wrong or I feel I've done wrong I don't embrace it, I try to alter what I'm doing and fix it. So I may disagree with gay marriage and that lifestyle, doesn't mean I don't like them. They are sinners just like me, but you can't expect me to embrace what the are doing and accepting of it, because even though I sin, I don't embrace it and tell everyone the sins I've committed and think its okay because of that reason.3
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I personally prefer a child raised by a woman and a man but it can work.2
I believe that as long as no one gets hurt physically, psychologically, or financially in the process, people should be able to do anything they please. I doubt anyone is getting hurt in any of those aspects from gays marrying, so why not?
As for the children raising, I will have to say I object. Those kids are going to be bullied their entire lives because of their parents.
Maybe someday allow gays to have children, after everyone grows up and discriminate against them as much as they do now. But for now, it would be a bad idea...0
I have a biast opinion on gays, since my brother is gay and tons (Most) of his friends are gay as well. But they are really the same as anyone else. THey're people. They have jobs, they go out, & they do shit like everyone else. What have they done to not earn your support other than not follow your "Gods" rules. What they do, what anyone does in their bedroom (doesn't really have to be the bedroom I guess, haha) is absolutely none of your concern. And we are all going to be in the history books. I hope people look back and shake their heads in embarassment in reguards to how some of you people dont support two human beings getting married and having children.
PS: If you see this brotha, I love you!2
Gay marriage: yes.
Gay people having kids: No. At least, not at this time. Gay-hating people are everywhere, and I kid with gay parents would have to endure a tremendous amount of bullying. I just don't think it's fair on the kid. When homosexuality becomes widely accepted, then yes, I think it's fine.2
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I support them getting married
I support them adopting kids0
i voted no because of the children thing. i have no problem with gays or gay marriage, i have several gay friends and have even questioned my own sexuality at times. but as somebody who grew up in a broken home (only my mum taking care of me) with no older male siblings i was left rather disadvantaged in many aspects, i didn't know many of the things needed to know for preparing to be a man. and i never had somebody i could trust and relate to. if a gay couple is raising a child the same gender as themselves then it would probably be fine but boys need a good male role model just like girls need a strong woman to look up to.1
Yes I support gays in marriage as well as adoption. It's some of the other people procreating that concerns me.3
I think they're both okay. I used to not be as wild about them raising children, but I don't think there's any real evidence against it. As long as they care about the child, their sexes don't matter.2
sure why not? wait for gay divorce tho...
that kid'll be fine most of the flamboyant ones want girls anyway... and the non flamboyant gays want boys or girls mostly so the kid'll be fine.0
I don't support gay marriage or a gay couple raising children for religious reasons, but if I seen it in person it would not bother me.3
I beleive if you want to share your life with someone you love them no on should be able to stand in your way. Children is a different subject, I personally believe that a couple should make between 50-90 grand a year to raise children. Otherwise there raising the kids in poverty and without many privilages. I personally grew up very poor, I had nothing as a child I barely had food. I will never raise my children in that kind of environment.0
look i don't understand why gayness needs to be pushed onto everyone, i don't agree with the sexuality, but im not going to condemn them for what they are, im sure they're lovely people, but keep it in the privacy of your own homes please and i do believe that every child is entitled have a mother and a father in their lives, not 2 same sex parents.5
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