You can be in love, have kids, own property together without having a piece of paper. So what's the point to being married.
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There are certain legal and practical benefits to having that piece of paper. This is one of the reasons gay people want their partnerships to be acknowledged as marriages and not something else, so they cannot legally be discriminated against when it comes to receiving these benefits on the grounds that they are not technically married.
Other than that, yeah, the piece of paper and the elaborate ceremony is a pleasant little lie we tell ourselves represents commitment to each other. A relationship doesn't need them for any functional purpose, but we have been convinced by millennia of social custom that this is how it's supposed to be.
It does, in some sense, represent the security many of us crave, at least for some time after the wedding when we're possibly making a significant change in our living conditions and social lives, starting our family, and so on. Of course, I've had a couple of friends who cheated when their wives were pregnant with their first child, so even that security is somewhat of a mirage. If it's really the hassle of divorce that's providing the security, then you got married for the wrong reason IMO.
My feeling on it today is simply that if you don't feel the need for the paper and ceremony to prove your commitment and feel secure in your relationship for the foreseeable future, then you are ready for it. NOT having it becomes as irrelevant as having it, and if you so choose you can then enjoy the experience of getting married without needing to acknowledge all the pleasant lies that get attributed to it.0