My fiancee and I are semi-newly engaged. New enough that we haven't made any real strides toward planning a wedding but we've been engaged long enough that the novelty has worn off (not that I'm not still over the moon lol).
Anyway, his father is a lawyer and his professional opinion is that a prenup is a good financial investment.
However, his personal opinion is that they ruin marriages - kind of like a self-fulfilling prophecy. He and his wife do not have one. He makes upwards of $400,000+ a year and she works with/for him as she manages his finances and appointments.
My fiancee is also going to be a lawyer. Once he passes the bar he's going in as partner in his father's law firm.
I am employed as well, but let's just say that my career won't be making $400,000 a year :p. The salary span for my career is $40,000-$130,000 depending on years in business.
Neither my fiancee or I really feel that it would be necessary. To quote him, he says, "Getting a prenup means you think your marriage could fail. And then it will."
But society seems to think that everyone should get prenups.
So what are your thoughts on it?
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Most Helpful Girl
It would be a good idea given what sort of person you plan on marrying.
You are going to be part of a family of lawyers and the number one red flag to them would be your adamant protests. If he asked you to do it and you categorically rejected the idea, they'll think you're up to no good and might even try to break you up for the son's protection.
You don't HAVE to do it, of course. But it would prove to his family that you're not trying to get your hands on his money.
If I were you, I'd be very casual about the topic. Be like "Hey, if you want me to sign it, I see no issue with it.".0