I don't understand that sexual compatibility after marriage (especially with the divorce rates, most marriages aren't for life). Why does a girl have to put out before that special night, if you love her, have a great connection, share similar values and feel you can have future with her... but if sex is not good enough then fuck all that. (tbh with all those toys now, I don't think finding a way to please someone should be that hard) and if you love that person then you should respect their wishes and values.
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Exactly as IHav2fart said, if you don't have sexual compatibility with someone it'll be very difficult to commit. You may not mind it or think it's a problem, but on your wedding day when you're getting ready to have sex after waiting soooo many years for it only to find your partner has a micropenis and doesn't know how to pleasure a women because all he knows is what is shown in p*rn, you're going to feel a bit of regret. It'll be a psychological thing. You think a person is perfect only to find out they aren't as great as you imagined.
That being said you're right as far as having no excuse with so many toys. And if you love a person you'll make it work. I myself am waiting until marriage with my girlfriend. I know what'll be more important to me is getting her off. Just having intimacy on that level is good enough for me so I know I don't need to "test drive" her before our special night because it'll be special even if we don't necessarily have orgasms on the first try.1