I'm a newlywed. Been married for 9 months and our relationship has changed so much since the wedding. He says he is unhappy with our sex life and wishes we had more. Ideally he would like it a few times a day. I heard that's even normal for newlyweds. But I can't even seem to want it once a day. We argue a lot too. He tells me all our arguments are my fault because I get so emotional and I'm selfish. It's really hard not to cry or get an attitude when my feelings are hurt or I am annoyed. I can't seem to have an adult conversation when I'm upset. How do I keep my emotions in check? He's growing more and more distant emotionally and I'm afraid of losing him. I want him to be happy and even if it's selfish I want me to be the one to make him happy. I'm having a hard time understanding men. And before anyone talks down my husband, he is the most caring man I have ever met, he's helped me through so much in life and loves me with every inch of his soul, I can see it in his eyes. I'm the selfish one here. Give helpful advice. Not "get a divorce".
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It's pretty clear from here that you need some marriage counseling and now! These are all issues that new couples deal with, some with more stress than others. This is all normal stuff. He needs to learn more about how to deal with a female partner and not just his naughty little sexy wench. You need to learn to not take everything so personally and take a step back. Give your logical brain a chance to engage.