my boyfriend broke up with me first complaining of space, that he needed space and analyzing how we were just boyfriend and girlfriend and so said point blank that were are not for marriage but I can't b with someone with that thought and I can't b his friend either cause I still love him. but when we talk he still seem to b with me like we are together, call me same name he called me when we were together and still tells everything about him but I need to move on, so lately he calls ma cell but I don't answer it, I'm I doing the right thing? should I answer him when he calls again, cause I've been refusing contacts with him for some time now? what do you suggest I do? I still love him, and I feel so sad when I see him calling but not answering it, and for how long I'm I to cut off contact and when I'm to reopen it? I just want him to miss me a lot. I'm I on the right track?
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I have wondered if having No Contact really works in all cases. I feel you should not contact him for at least a month maybe longer. However, What if he calls you? Should you answer or continue no contact? This is the way I feel I should handle things if my ex calls me.
If you don’t take his call, then you are really saying to him you are not ready and that you’re still hurting over him, or basically he knows you might still have feeling for him and he could have you back if he wanted you. So if people never want what they can have, he won’t feel like chasing after you.
However, if he calls and you answer, and you act happy and full of energy, like life is great, then a few things will happen. He will think you’re over him already and it doesn’t matter either way if he calls you. This will confuse him, because he thought you were still yearning over him. Also, your being happy will make him miss the happy person he once know, and he’ll want to be around you again. He will wonder if you’re happy because you have found someone else. If you act hurt and like your still upset with him for breaking up with you, he will only feel like he made a mistake by calling you in the first place and he will not want to contact you again.
So, if he calls…answer his call, surprise him by being happy. Talk only small talk, don’t bring up the relationship, don’t ask him if he’s seeing anyone (this will show you still care), Don’t tell him every detail about your life (leave some mystery) and don’t tell him if your dating, he’ll think your trying to make him jealous, which shows you still care. If he asks you if you’re dating then tell yes (even if you’re not) but then say nicely you would rather not talk about it. Keep the conversation short, and be the first to say good bye. Then don’t call him back, let him wonder about you and let him call you back again if he wants…let him chase you. Don’t let him think he can easily have you back (make him work), but don’t play too hard to get either. Just be pleasant (even if you have to act!)