After five years, he asked the question... finally! and I said... yes!! We were so happy and I am so excited!! but the very next day. He had a lot to drink and we got into a disagreement and he told me... I drink, I gamble, I watch sports all day and guess what I am not going to change. I was heart broken. I do not want to be with someone like that even though I knew he was drinking and gambling. I do not know what to do. But for sure do not like to live the rest of my life with someone that is so negative.
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if you don't want to be with someone who drinks and gambles you should be engaged to them or with them. I mean that's really all there is to it. please don't ignore the red flags in your relationship and not address them.
basically there are one of two things that can happen. he can quit the drinking and gambling or scale it back to a level you deem ok OR you can just get over it (that is not meant to sound rude just a reality)... otherwise if neither of you is willing to change your perspective (and you are entitled to yours) you should really re-consider the engagement0