I read articles saying women should get married in their 20's while they are the most attractive, but I don't know how I'm supposed to do that when men seem so against marriage these days? What is a woman supposed to do to secure a relationship with a man if men don't want to get married anymore?
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Women who get married in their late teens or early 20s have the highest divorce rate, somewhere around 60%. Women who only have high school education have a high divorce rate too.
The average divorce rate for first marriages is about 44%. The majority of the time, the wife just says she's fallen out of love, can't find a reason or anything she wants changed, but she just wants a divorce after 5 or 10 years. Men rarely file for divorce.
Men don't find those odds tempting. Would you bet your life savings and future happiness on odds like that? Divorce can be a big financial disadvantage for a man, especially if already has children by then.
Women brought this on themselves and it doesn't matter how much a woman claims to love a man in the beginning, it still happens.
Here's what mostly happens, even without divorce:
Men love women.
Women love children.
Children love guinea pigs.
The guinea pig wins, no-one loves the man, and he just pays for the whole deal.
In 50% of marriages, the wife will be turning off the physical attraction and affection at about 4 years. The sex practically stops, and that's a good barometer of the health of a marriage. A lot of those 50% will soon be cheating or divorced, or both. Women don't normally cheat until 5 years into a marriage. For men who cheat, it's more like 10 years. Only 20% of wives will be showing much physical affection to their partner at 20 years into a marriage. Some men won't even get a kiss when they leave for work or return home, and that's not what they bargained for.
20% of all marriages in the USA are sexless (10 or less times a year), and again that's not what a man bargained for.
If only men could determine which women are in that 20% who can stay attracted and affectionate for 20 years, more men would be tempted to marry and stay married. There is almost no way to tell, because they all look convincing at the beginning. It's probably genetic, and some family history might be a good guide.3