I brought up to him that one day I'd like to be married and his response was that we are not ready but he also said he'd like to get married too. He sometimes has negative views on marriage. Is he really not ready or is this just an excuse because he doesn't really want to? We also have children from previous partners.
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Honestly, at your age I think that you guys should have had this talk earlier (just sayin' for future reference/for your girlfriends I think over 30s should have the marriage talk between 7 months-1.5 years of dating just so you're not wasting as much time. It's perfectly acceptable to cut the b*llshit and cut to the chase when you're older and dating).
Anyway, I think considering your age and how long you've been dating it'd be perfectly fine for you to drill him a little. You deserve answers. If you were 23 asking the same question I'd say give him time and let him come to you when you're ready, but especially if you want more kids or REALLY want to get married it's important to see where he stands and discuss how you both feel like adults. No games. Seriously, don't let him avoid your questions put your foot down. If he tells you he doesn't want to get married, then you need to be prepared to make the decision to move on or not. Do you love him? Would you have a problem just living with him the rest of your life or is marriage more important to you? Do you want more kids? Think about these things because you may not get the response you want.1