Sexual Relationships 
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I'm not a virgin guy but would not marry a non virgin girl because I think if a girl can't stop and save herself then she has not quality of a good wife and doesn't deserves me.
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The question is about guys and girl who want marry for the first time for sure widows or divorced women could not be virgin.
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43 16your view that sex prior to marriage would lessen a woman's worth but not alter your own as a man is hypocritical, sexist, and many would think, wrong. This view of women as lesser or inferior beings is not a healthy one and many women would resent it. I'm a highly moral person and would only have sex with someone that I loved. I would never do it for the sake of it and have only ever slept with one person. I am not married to them but I am in a relationship with them. Does this lessen my worth? In my opinion, no. If a woman is a moral, devoted and caring wife, then you should be happy to be with her, and to be deserving of her, regardless of her dating history. Women are free beings and archaic ideas that they are to be defined and 'made' by their partners have no place in our society in my opinion. They are not here for your enjoyment. They are free people and if you want to marry one, you should acknowledge this.
tell me what are the qualities for a good husband then? Why would a woman want to marry you? What can you offer to a wife?
I believe that you should marry for love. I also believe a good husband is one who is faithful and does not cheat on his wife. A good husband is very supportive of his wife and by that I mean he is there for emotioanl support. If his wife was in the hospital he would be there by her side. If his wife wanted to better herself by getting a degree, a new job, go to the gym to workout and be healthy then a good husband would encourage her to do thoes things. A good husband also knows how to please his wife sexually. A good husband loves and respects his wife.
thoes are the qualities of a good husband and they are also the same qualities of a good wife.
having sex before marriage does not determine whether or not a person would be able to be a loving, faithful, respectful, supportive, spouse.
Love is stupid I would not marry for love also I don't need to be faithful to be a good husband.
That is why you would not be a good husband for me. You do not poses the qualities of a good husband.
For one to not know love it is truly sad and pitiful.
You have the right to have your own standards regarding who you choose to marry. However, don't project your closed minded views onto other people. Being a non-virgin woman doesn't mean anyone is "less worthy" of getting married. If you prefer virgin women, that's fine, it's your prerogative, but there's no need to put down women who are not virgins.
Saving oneself for marriage has nothing to do with not possessing the qualities of being a good wife and by your logic, I could easily say you do not possess the qualities of being a good husband because you are not a virgin. Now, that sounds pretty silly, doesn't it? As I said, if you want to hold hypocritical views like that, fine, but there's no reason to go around insulting other women just because they aren't virgins. Grow up.
That is your own religious beliefs (I'm guessing). Not everyone shares your morals or ideals. Of course non virgins should be married. Whatever happened to he without sin shall cast the first stone?
You may have your preferences but that does not allow you judgment upon others.
I don't judge others they are free to do what they want to do until they don't hurt others. but as you said its my religion beliefs and I want to follow it.
I promise you there are other girls out there who share your belief, but they are looking for a virgin guy. By your own preference you are limiting yourself.
So doesn't that make you not husband material? I'm not a virgin and I wasn't when I got married, but I'm a Damn good wife and mother.
Maybe your husband doesn't care about honor.
He wasn't a virgin when we got together either, so it would make him a damned hypocrite if he was going to use my virginity ( or lack thereof) against me.
A man could be virgin or not its not a big deal being virgin for men is stupid in the first place. Its only important for girls.
I do, t understand your thinking. Why is it not a big deal if a man is not a virgin, but it is a big deal if a woman is not?
Because God made women less than men its simple. Most successful people are men.
If that were the case, how come the male chromosome (the y) is slowly disintegrating over time?
Congratulations, you are a hypocrite.
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This is quite possibly the stupidest question I've seen on here and you're a hypocrite for thinking you not being a virgin yet holding your future wife to those standards is ridiculous.
most women who marry aren't virgins when they marry. so it doesn't matter what u define as worthy it won't stop all these wedding announcements that will continue to pop up
That's stupid and backwards of you. And you've already defiled yourself so you shouldn't try to expect a virgin. With that train of thought you don't deserve a virgin woman. Secondly all marriage is, is a ritual union and a piece of paper saying you're committed business partners when your bills come in.
For me marriage is more than that its about following God and obey his rules.
Says the guy who couldn't keep it in his pants while demanding a pure, virgin girl. LOL
@Vesuvius87 OK I did a mistake but no one is perfect.
I said ritual union. Mostly it's a disguise for business purposes. There's no mistake you did what you wanted. Therefor holding a woman to the expectation of being a virgin when you aren't isn't logic and sounds like heathenism and just a backwards mentality.
I wouldn't say anything if your are a virgin too , but God !! your hypocrite
You expect others what you're not willing to do yourself.
You don't deserve the title of a man.
Preach it, brother!
@Anno_Domini Always a fucking Indian guy as well. Always.
Agreed that virginity means high morals. Or is it? If you were to choose between a manipulating woman who is a virgin and a honest woman who is not a virgin, whom would you pick? Who do you think deserves you?
Hard to answer your question very hard. i really don't know but being virgin is very important for me.
I noticed just now, u say u r not a virgin. How is that okay? Why do u think u deserve a virgin?
I'm a guy things are different for me than a girl.
Please explain, I don't get the difference.
Lol you're either trolling or the biggest hypocrite.
What is this 1612? Are we exchanging female virginity for a marriage and some goats? Lol Good luck with your unrealistic views. Not only does the woman have to be a virgin, but she has to be able to put up with your hypocrisy seeing as you aren't a virgin? Lol GOOD LUCK WITH THAT :P
So you want to have sex all you want to but only want a virgin wife? LMAO
Typical man with the madonna/whore complex.
Are you sure you're even going to wait 2-3 years into the relationship and be all patient till after her wedding? I would not last in a forever sexless relationship.
If the man isn't a virgin himself, lots of things would pop in my mind such as wondering if he's even attracted to me, if he has problems with intimacy, is he gay, etc.
Being a virgin waiting till marriage is a genderless trait. It isn't something only the woman is suppose to do nor feels obligated to.
Only God would knows with how many guys a non virgin girl could sleep. Because its no matter if she did it one time or more she is not virgin anymore.
Ok I'm beginning to think you're a troll looking for attention. Secondly, I'm an atheist. Lastly, quit forcing your belief on everyone. Does god knows how many girls a non virgin guy should sleep with? Because its no matter if he did it one time or more he is not virgin anymore.
I could be an Atheist too. Actually I don't trust religions but I fond that I can use it a lot.
So basically now you're a non-religious hypocrite that insist the woman should wait for you. Ok even funnier...
Nobody deserves marriage, really, it's not a Christmas gift that you get from Santa for being "nice". It's a legal agreement between people. Asking if a girl deserves that sort of agreement as a non-virgin is like asking if a person deserves to have a credit card issued from a bank if they have borrowed money from another bank a few years back.
Oh, and also, you should practice what you preach. Bloody manwhore.
Well, that's misogynist.
Total double standard ! A woman has as much right as you to explore her sexuality before marriage as you. How can you expect her to be fateful if she doesn't know your the best flavour there is. Its like saying I only like vanilla flavour ice cream cos I haven't tried any other...
Because its against what God teaches us.
... You do realise that the bible is a fictional novel... Written suit the needs of the man... So that the man can have a rightful heir.
I'm not a Christian and agree Bible is full of mistakes and lies.
So why tell someone "god" control your life? Have you been in love? If you have you would know that it wouldn't matter if she were a vorgin or not...
This is why Muslims are shite. lol.
I am not religious also.
Stupid. Fucking. Hypocrite.
You're probably Indian.
Yes Indian how did you find?
A lot of them, not all of them, but a lot of them sound just as stupid and hypocritical as you do.
Wow, the number of female upvotes... I guess I'm not the only one who encountered this sort of shit.
What makes you think you're good quality for a husband? Having or not having sex before or after ANY life event does not determine the quality of the person! And if you think otherwise, well... you're wrong and obnoxiously stupid.