By Asian I mean Indian / Pakistani.
My parents are always telling me they're saving up money for my marriage and I hate it.
I mean I'm starting uni soon and I want to concentrate on that and eventually getting a job.
If the right person comes along then great, but I don't want to get an arranged marriage.
How do I tell them I'm old enough to make my own decisions?
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Because tradition and culture, that is why.
You tell them by starting with telling them that you're the luckiest gal in the world because you have the most amazing parents. You know that they want only the best, and the best of the best for you. You are humbled by their dedication to your well being and your future.
AND since they are so great people you know they will understand when you say that you can not tolerate an arranged marriage, or attempt of setting up such a one.
Then leave them a bone and say that you can of course not stop them from introducing eligible candidates - one of them may be quite the guy - who knows. But you will NOT accept any attempt at arranging anything behind your back.0