My life: 'm 24, been with husband for 11 unhappy years, married 3 ( I was dumb to believe things would get better after marriuage and it was the right thing to do since we have children together). 2 kids 8 & 1, bought a house at 19, main bread winner, bill payer, main stressed one. No friends, no romancer, no love. Stuck working overnights which means I have to sleep during the day and my husband talks shit about my lack of energy to do anything (I get about 4 hours of sleep) husband is a part timer with no ambition, no goals in life, hates being a dad (he tells my kids he's tired of them). We don't talk much, sex is becoming horrible, I want to divorce but he refuses to leave. I don't know who I am, what I like/dislike, if I have standards in men/life/friends. I wake up to the same routines. I get questioned when I want to do something (new activities, church, concerts) I'm questioning my faith, purpose, everything really. I'm going out of my mind. I swear I want to disappear for a few days just to cry and sleep!
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Yikes, that doesn't sound like an enjoyable lifestyle. My advice would be to do your best to get out of this marriage. It's clear that neither of you two really enjoy being with each other, so there's no reason to maintain whatever relationship is left between you two. Talk to him about this, and hopefully he'll agree. Then, you can at least have more control over your life, and you'll probably have a better influence on your kids then too.1