I have unpopular views on weddings. I believe that weddings are about both the bride and the groom, and that the guy's opinions and wishes for the wedding should pull some weight as well as the bride. By that, I mean that if the guy wants a casual, no-dress-up wedding, or perhaps a certain type of wedding cake, his wishes should be brought into consideration.
Nobody I questioned or spoke to about this agreed with me. It bothers me a great deal so I made a survey to see how many agreed with me. Out of 156 people questioned over a course of 4 days, only 29% agreed, 10% of those 29% being women.
The same goes in my family. Both my sister, my mother, both my grandparents, my uncle and nearly all of my cousins agree that the wedding is about the BRIDE, not the groom. If the woman wants a formal wedding, she gets it. If the woman wants a certain type of cake, she gets it. If the woman wants this family to attend and this family to not attend... she gets her way.
It's all about the bride. Nothing the groom wants is taken into consideration.
Marriage is about equality. Yet the wedding is the most unequal event in marriage. Please, shed some light on this.
- The wedding is about the brideVote A
- The wedding should be about both bride and groomVote B
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The wedding is about the bride. It always has been.
BUT I do see where you're coming from and I personally want my husband to put in just as much input in our wedding as I do. I agree that marriage is a partnership and I want both of us to decide the plans for the wedding, but to me the wedding isn't that important. It's the marriage that matters.
I think this all comes down to who you marry more than anything though. Just like there are guys out there who want their wives to stay at home and not work there are women who want their husbands to stay out of the wedding planning and not have any input. If the girl that you're dating is one of those chicks just don't marry her simple as that.0