Girls, do you feel that your ability to give your partner sex steadily diminishes over time, in a marriage? Does this have something to do with him being the SAME partner? If you had to change partners, would you enjoy sex again (outside the marriage, or in a new one)?
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The reason in my opinion why changing partners increases sex drive (I. E. why infidelity is so exciting, new, and fresh) is because things have grown stale with the "old" person.
Men are usually almost exclusively physical and sensual creatures, while women can be given great sex physically, but if her heart is not in it, she will not enjoy it.
With a new person there are hopes, and excitement that has not been beaten down by reality, yet. So they can seem exciting, and fulfilling... But in the end it ends the same as the spouse.
In my opinion, when a wife is not as excited about sex as she once was, it is because the husband was not as excited about her being in his life... as he once was.
When you were dating, there was a spark, a passion, true love, and a desire for romance.
It wasn't one- sided, or you likely would not have married her.
The issue is not that you two have changed, it is that you have grown accustomed, used to each other. The spark has been taken for granted... And you both forgot the pangs of loneliness that plagued your hearts before you met. A blanket of warm, comfortable staleness has infested your souls, and it kills relationships.
It is a matter of pride, of recognizing that things have grown commonplace and realizing that the spark needs to be fanned- not of sensuality and sexuality but in the deep emotional connection that was shared during dating.
If you are married and considering introducing a third party into the relationship- don't. It will divide already stressed and stretched souls and hearts three ways instead of two. It will also likely end in tragedy for your relationship with your wife.
There are no quick, easy ways out, unfortunately. If my assessment is correct, then you must go back in time to discover the woman you fell in love with. A new connection must be made- and once her heart belongs to you again, so will her body.1