My wife and I have been married for 18 months now. We were together for a bit over 5 years prior to the marriage. Before we got married, our sex life was great, we would have sex just about every day, but ever since we actually got married we barely have sex any more. Other than our honeymoon, we have had sex an absolute maximum of 50 times. On average, that's about twice every three weeks. But it is a lot more rare now.
At this point we are essentially just friends. I have talked to her about it several times and she is fine not having sex. After the conversation, we have sex that night and then it's back to normal. Even when I take her on beautiful dates, she says she's too tired to have sex.
Every time that we do actually have sex, I have to come on to her for it, every single time, and most of the time she says no. I want to feel like she wants to be intimate with me. I love her and don't want to hurt her but I am at the point where I want to have sex with another woman. I just want to feel wanted, I guess. I'm not going to force myself on her or anything like that and I don't want to cheat on her but I am so tired of not having sex. I have talked with her so many times, I really don't know what to do. I feel bad because she can't help that she's not aroused.
P. S. I haven't gained weight or anything like that since getting married, we both go to the gym together (most days) and are in great shape.
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I want to cheat on my wife?
In my opinion that seems pretty typical for a married guy. You can cheat (also a seemingly typical for married guys) or get a divorce.
" Before we got married, our sex life was great, we would have sex just about every day, but ever since we actually got married we barely have sex any more."
Was it great or was it great for you? Does she agree it was great? I find most guys tend to think sex is great when they are enjoying it and having it as much or almost asmuch as they want.
How have you changed since the marriage (I'm speaking of personality, behavior, habits, sharing household workload)? How has your sexual technique changed? Do you just take it for granted that as a husband you'll have sex or do you consider that as a man you have to be desirable to have sex?
" I have talked to her about it several times and she is fine not having sex. "
Exactly how did you talk to her about it? Was it "I want sex", "I fell (insert whatever)" or was it trying to find out why she doesn't want sex with you? Do you know why she's fine not having sex with you? Does she find sex with you boring, non orgasmic, non pleasurable, too much of a hassle/bother, something done solely for your benefit?1
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