My best friend is getting married, and I was asked to be the maid of honor..
One of my responsibilities is to plan and organize the bridal shower, which is about two months away (super short engagement).
I asked the bride-to-be for a guest list for the shower, and she refuses to invite any family members but two of her 3 sisters. Not her mother, grandmother, aunts, cousins, or mother in law to-be or any of the grooms female relatives. I worry that this may be, well, rude.
I asked her why she doesn't want to invite them, and she claims her mother wouldn't have fun, her grandmother would rather be home and she can't stand her mother in law to-be.
I feel that it's common courtesy to invite family, it doesn't matter if they'll have fun or not show up, it's sort of a must..
How do I explain this to her without hurting her feelings or making it sound like I want to control things? I won't tell her what to do being it's her wedding and I want her to be happy, I really am just worried it will cause problems and hurt feelings between her and her family..
Should I just let it go or try to get her to invite the family?
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I guess I'm going to be the first and perhaps only one who will say that you should try speaking to her again about it. I feel like she really needs to think about this again. The thing is that these women will notice that they never received an invitation, and regardless of the fact whether they would accept the invitation, it will leave a bitter taste. If she doesn't like her groom's mother this could be a good opportunity to get to know her a little better. However, if an invitation isn't even sent then that relationship is going to be doomed pretty much forever. If I had a bridal shower and wouldn't invite my mum I know she'd be hurt. She may not like your friend's groom, but she is still her mother after all.
If I were you, I'd try to talk to her about it once more to make sure she's actually aware of the consequences of not inviting certain woman but also of the benefits of inviting them. If she still sticks to her wish, you should accept it and not bring it up again.1