Seriously? What's so wrong with loving your SO unconditionally, trusting them, and thinking it was going to last? Why even get married if you think it might end in divorce? This isn't me being young and immature, if you really have such doubt I don't think you should get married in the first place. The reason so many people get divorced is because they rush into things. You should be positive about wanting to spend the rest of your life with that person.
I'm just so disappointed that it's the norm to assume you're going to get divorced so you have to prepare for the worst. I would never ever sign one because it shows a lack of trust in me and our relationship. Even if we did end up getting divorced he should know I'm not that kind of person and wouldn't try to ruin him. I think how men are treated in divorce is terrible and would never do that.
Is there anyone here that doesn't like prenups?
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Under no circumstances will I sign a prenup. If you ask me, marriage is one thing for which you should NOT "hope for the best and expect the worst". Or even PREPARE for the worst. Maybe I'm just idealistic, but I take "... for better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health until death parts us" seriously. Marriage is not something that you "try out" or for which you have some kind of personal safety net.
It's not something that you progress into because you've been living together for x-number of years, because you already have kids together, or because you're otherwise "compatible". It's a conscious decision that you make.
I recently saw a post from someone saying that signing a prenup is "realistic" and not an anticipation of failure. I'm sorry, but that is an inconsistency at best because divorce is a very unfortunate and very common part of our society. They weren't exactly saying "this isn't going to work", but they were saying "this may not be 'until death parts us'". That's not how it works. You should not get married with the anticipation that you "might" not be with each other until the end of your lives. To me, a prenup says that a couple thinks that they might encounter issues that they either can't or won't work through.\
I know I might be kind of harsh about the subject. I understand how people might feel uneasy about their marriage, but this is not the way to go.0