Is it bad is it to check your spouse' Cellphone Facebook etc. I don't know how wrong it is but as we generally don't share real feelings in relationship so I do it sometimes.. and then I feel guilty.
there's a poll please vote.
- I do it too.33% (4)25% (2)30% (6)Vote
- It's bad.67% (8)75% (6)70% (14)Vote
Most Helpful Girl
I'm in two minds about it. On the one hand if you haven't got anything to hide you should be okay with it. On the other, it could seem like you feel (s) he isn't trustworthy/you have trust issues. That being said many people are untrustworthy an it can be normal to have "trust issues".
Ultimately if your stable in your relationship i. e good communication, fully trusting of each other etc. you shouldn't have to check up on the other or corroborate their stories, if you feel the need to do this due to lack of communication or whatever, its the relationship that is the problem and needs to be worked on, not wasting energy on checking their phone and social media accounts.
Start by being completely honest and even getting vulnerable and open the line of communication that way, say what you have been doing, that you feel like your lost on where you both stand because you aren't telling each other how you really feel etc.
Try to go back to what made you fall in love in the first place and why you got married, what was it you were both doing that made you happy enough with each other to commit to spending the rest of your lives with each other.
If your 'snooping' is justified i. e she cheated or something don't get defensive and say well what you did was worse than what I did, for starters you both did something wrong, secondly people usually cheat because they aren't getting what they need at home.
I hope you can work out your marriage for the better. Good Luck1