So lately I have heard a lot of stories about people who have been together for 20 years plus and are not married, they only live together and this seem to work. Well it seem to work better than getting married. Do you believe that it is necessary to get married or not? And why?
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The hard truth is that marriage, from both a legal and religious aspect, has been destroyed.
Prior to the 1960s, marriage was "until death" except for the most extreme of circumstances. Divorce was almost unheard of, and was associated with only the most scandalous marriages and cases of extreme abuse. When you got married, you did so with the full expectation that you weren't going to have the opportunity to change your mind later. As such, people took it seriously, and if you had problems in your marriage, you had to work them out. Breaking up/divorce largely wasn't an option.
And from a religious standpoint, divorce had to be granted by the church, and again, was only granted in extremely rare circumstances.
That has all changed. People marry and divorce nearly as easily as they pick a Netflix movie, and often with the same amount of thought.
Similarly, marriage's advantages have largely gone away too. Marriage was created to ensure that wealth, titles, status, etc. stayed in the family, and that meant that the family needed to be "pure" - children born outside of a marriage were bastards who could not inherit or be in the line of succession. Such inheritance was of utmost importance for nearly all of human history (the Bible is full of such examples). But that also started changing in the 20th century, but mostly again in the 1960s, when bastardy was, as a concept, removed from the law.
So, marriage really has little real value today. What matters, and what has always mattered, is that people WANT to be together, and are willing to work through the inevitable problems that life brings us in order to STAY together. You don't need to be married to do that.
Largely today, marriage is good for one group of people: divorce lawyers.8
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