I have been married since i was 19 and only person i have slept with is my husband. I am going to be 26 and i feel proud of myself plus i feel like i am missing out on something. My husband and i have sex maybe once a month. I don't think i am unattractive. I am thin person and of i go to club with my friends at least 5 to 6 or more guys hit on me and they are all pretty good looking and not creepy guys but i always turn them down and never even dance with them because my commitment for marriage is most important to me. But my husband never even kiss me or wanna have sex with me. I feel ok most times but i feel like i am just getting old like this lol. We used to be firey with each other and had sex like couple times a day lol but now we are like this. I feel sad. Maybe i should suggest my husband something else? What do you think?
My husband wouldn't even touch me... And I am getting kinda sad about it?
What Guys Said 17
i think you should voice your concerns to him. not in a combative or confrontational way but kindly and out of concern for your relationship...'honey, I've noticed recently that... This is really upsetting me and I'm wondering if it is something with me or something we need/can work on together'
and don't mention guys flirting with you.3
It doesn't matter how beautiful someone is, familiarity will always breed contempt.3
Plan some time away, short weekend trips to the mountains or beach. let him know that you guys need to rekindle the spark and say you love him in the same sentance. A lot of couple do a date noght as well. Find out what turns him on, new fantasies etc. go to 50 Shades of Gray. Tease him. Jump his bones on Saturday morning before he gets up, just walk into the shower with him already in there on a relaxing day. Good luck.0
Hun, you either talk to him and explain exactly what you feel... or you let this drift away because that's what's happening. For some reason he's not coming after you and as you're not ok with this you need to speak up.0
may be this will take short time and you get back to each other, becose some times couples when they have sex too much, they loos there apetite fore short time.
and may be you are doing it always same way in same place, try to make chainges, like change the place where you usually play withe each other or try new positions.
and may be he always make the first move and get tired of that, so try to take the first move some times, and make him getting exited.0
Could a quite a few this in this equation. He could be stressed out. He could feel left out because you are going clubbing with your friends. Do you go clubbing with just him? Do you to still go on dates?
I know for me lack of interest my wife shows towards me less I am interested in sex. That also goes for if I am stressed as well.0
Have a romantic dinner together. Maybe if you come out of the bed room completely naked. Or send him naughty text messages. It couldn't hurt. I can't wait to get married. Lol
sorry no pun intended.0
i think , sorry but i think the love has gone. you could try to do something to get it back something kinky lol but when the sex go's its bad but you sound like the best wife a guy could ever have xx0
You sound like a great wife and he's very lucky to have you, but he should appreciate you more in that area. Talk to him about it.0
Have you tried initiating it yourself? That's always hot.0
Try marriage counseling?0
u are not American right?0
I'm sorry you are going though that. It is usually married men who have that experience (and invariably women suggest it happens because he is not doing his part in and outside the bedroom). I wonder what they will suggest here?
In any case, it is not normal and not acceptable. You should talk with him about it and find out where his head is. Maybe there is something you two can do to spark the fire. The sex life of married couples requires work and compromise on the part of both partners to keep it vital. Good luck - I hope you work it out and get the fire burning again.0
Did you try communucating with him? As in when you try to be close do you ask him why he's pushing you away?
Maybe he feels the same as you?0
Any kids? Not getting pregnant over that period of time can cause strain, loss of attraction. Brains are programmed to make babies and the brain may be telling him you can't get pregnant, time to find a new partner. Probably not a conscious thought, but that may be the case. Search two year and seven year drop.0
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What Girls Said 7
Tired shmired. People get into the habit of "being too tired". Sex begats sex and the more you ha d it the more normal it becomes in your routine.
Try a break away, a little weekend getaway for the two of you. No work, no household chores, no drama, just the two of you alone for the weekend with nothing to do but enjoy each other.
If that doesn't work, and talking to him doesn't work then try suggesting counselling... and if that doesn't work...2
damn! just tell him frankly what you really want!!! you deserve to be happy too0
The honeymoon phase is over. This happened to one of my cousin, she got married to her high school sweetheart at 18. They divorced at 24 because he realized he wanted something different after going to college. He ended up cheating on her for 3 years before finding out.0
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