My marriage has been rocky.. husband is not the most romantic guy in the world.. if at all.. really.. no flowers, dinners, or lunches out as he doesn't like them he says.. he says he doesn't want nor like to sit at a bar at age 45, as he is too old.. (mind you he has guy weekends where he is doing that very thing).. he also has said he's too tired to plan these as he works all day.. he says I can plan and pay for them, (but that's not fair to me as I'm in college and have no money ).. we've been out to dinner twice all of last year.. and maybe twice the year prior.. and there's no vacation either.. hasn't been since our honeymoon... honestly. . But he always goes out for drinks with his coworkers. . Always has to travel with one young er female , first class, which I've never done, and eat alone with her, and drink with her alone but cannot with me.. goes to work happy hours that I could go to but he doesn't invite me.. and he always tells me he doesn't like doing those things, but "just has to" , and never says no he can't go, and for me to suck it up as I need to stay home with kids.. which I really dont.. they are 17 and 5.. the older one babysits.. I've been waiting since Christmas to be taken out to dinner.. still waiting. . every time he mentions a business function niw, especially a trip, I get angry. It's yet again another trip we pay for out of pocket, but I can't attend because of school and kids.. yet he doesn't show any interest in planning a trip when I can go.. I'm frustrated. . I didn't sign up to stay home literally all the time, and watch him have a social life.. (my college time is friendly. . Not social when I'm paying by the hour for a sitter.. any suggestions? ?
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That is RIDICULOUS. That is horrible.
You deserve better. I don't know you but no spouse deserves to be treated that way.
Divorce is NOT easy, obviously. Im so sorry you're going through that. What a tough situation to even consider divorce. Was he always like this?
I'd probably Change up my appearance. Spice myself up and enjoy my life away from him. Give him the same dish he is giving you. I'm sure you've discussed your feelings already? Can you afford counselling?
I'd probably ask him if he wants to end the marriage bluntly with a soft, non-threatening tone. I'd look him in the eye and ask if all else fails.0