I'm getting married in August - yay!
Is it selfish to want it to be MY day and not OURS or HIS?
My fiance's name is Kody. Our entire relationship has been the Kody show - guest starring me. Which is perfectly fine. I'm fine with being in the background most of the time. I am his support system. Everyone notices his acomplishments and celebrates them with enthusiasm. My acomplishments (Graduating HS/College/getting my bachelors degree and masters degree, first real job...etc.) have all gone rather unnoticed. His achievements of the same successes have been spot lighted by his family and friends.
This is fine. I don't need the attention.
I know that after our wedding it's going to be the Kody show again. I'll go back to sort of being in the background. There, but not anywhere near the center of attention. If we have kids, I know his family and friends are going to congratulate him on his good job having a kid and I know the most I'll get is a passing, "Good work." Which is fine.
BUT....I have to admit...I want my wedding day to be the Alyssa show. I want that day to be all about me. Even typing this I think it sounds selfish.
Is it selfish? Like, I want to plan it all, get 95% of the attention (5% can go to him since, you know, he'll be there) and I want all the focus to be on me. Just for that day.
I know weddings are supposed to be about the couple and I also know that my wedding will end up with the focus on both of us...but I want MOST of the focus to be on me.
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I was gonna say it is selfish after reading your title, but now that I've read everything, I am gonna take that back. It's understandable that you'd like to have your wedding day as yours solely considering everything else seems to revolve around Kody.
Can I ask, though, if you've ever spoken to Kody about how you feel regarding all of this? Not so much the fact that you want the wedding to be all about you, but more about how you sometimes feel like everything you do feels insignificant?1