He said that we are only friends, but we had in some occasions some kind of intimate encounters. I think that if that continues, we will be fwb. I don't like this idea.
I would rather prefer to be only a friend instead. However, I feel rather sad with that idea.
The problem is that if the opportunity comes, we will have another encounters, probably leading to a real sexual intercourse. Of course, I would want to give my everything to him, but I fear that he will only see it as only sex and pleasure, thus degrading our friendship relationship and that he would want to see me or contact me less.
And I fear that if I tell him my worries, he will only hear them and only accept what I propose as he frequently does. What can I do? Why am I not satisfied with being either a friend or a fwb?
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A successful friends with benefits relationship requires a multitude of things, one of the most important being, you both need to want the same thing; sex with no emotional attachments. You would do your situation no justice by pursuing such a relationship. This route would obviously end in disaster and your relationship, as lovers and friends, in pieces.
After having said that I think you know the answer to your problem. Unless he wants a committed relationship with you the only sensible thing to do is remain friends.
MY opinion, not yours.