My old buddy is married, he and his wife are having problems, she cheated on him, he and her had it out. This was a while ago (around a year), now the trust is broken, its like every time I see him he is down. I don't think they communicate at all, he said he thinks she is cheating on him again, it bothers him that she has dreams about other guys and doesn't tell him.
I'd like to help him but all he seems to do is go through the motions. I tell him if he keeps doing this things won't change. I offered to take him out get his mind off his troubles, he doesn't seem to want to go. She and him almost ended their marriage a while ago.
I just want to help him, but the idiot won't let anyone in. What can I do to get through to him?
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I'm sorry to say, but unfortunatly there is not much you can do other than being there for him when he does reach out.
One of the hardest things to do is sit back and watch friends and family be unhappy in their situations, but unfortunatly until they are ready to learn whatever lessons need to be learned and are ready to make a change for themselves you just have to be there for them. If you choose to.
Sometimes its hard, but maybe you can take a step back and know that your friend is doing what they think they should be doing, so support them as best as you can. In the mean time just hang back.1