Obviously, you have a duty to raise your children and get them ready to face the world on their own. You probably want to date a man who understands your obligations to your children and would never even consider anything that would interfere with your parental resonsibilities, but. . . when your chidren are grown and living on their own, do you think they should always be a higher priority than your husband? I'm not talking about a child who has an emergency and needs help. I'm talking about things like: you make plans to meet your husband for dinner but cancel at the last minute because your son asks if you can babysit his kids and he never bothers to plan and ask about these things in advance. If you think your children should always be a higher priority, would you feel okay if you husband made you the fourth prority in his life, maybe behind his work and friends and his family? Obviously, this is not a hypothetical question; it is why I am currently divorced.
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I am a single mother and raising my two children on my own. They are both still young, ages 7 and 5. However, at this rate, I am still thinking about how I am gonna be when I grow old and they have their own family. Since I cannot rely on them to take care of me I would love it to have someone beside me and grow old with me. In addition, I expect my children to give me that freedom too. Thinking that I have raised them well, they would be able to take care of themselves and would not ask me favors such as baby sitting their children, most especially that I had made plans. Don't get me wrong, I would baby sit my grand kids but must be noted in advance. However, if the reason is valid and was caught up in a bad circumstance, such as cannot find a baby sitter for a certain day no matter how hard he tried looking for one, then I might consider that as well (provided that its not about he's going out to have some fun for himself)0