I was maid of honor in my friends wedding last summer, and it was really expensive. I'm a student, and don't have tons of money, but I spent about $600-$700 to be in her wedding (hair, nails, dress, shoes, wedding shower...). She and her now husband were in therapy before the wedding and already having problems, but they got married anyways and now less than a year later she told me that she is filing for divorce. Would you be upset at spending all of that money, when I already had a good idea that they weren't going to make it?
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No. She should not postpone her divorce or wedding for the sake of her friends but you can resolve to spend less on being her bridesmaid or refuse to be her maid of honour in the future. However, maybe you can see if you can convince them to give it another try. I think people walk into marriages with unreasonable expectations and bail out at the first sign of difficulty - marriages are not meant to be idyllic picture perfect lives - you work at it and sacrifice for it. Just like a fat person who wants to lose weight - it requires sacrifice and hard work - you can't tell the mirror to make you beautiful and do absolutely nothing to get there. Most people worship holly wood and think everything is easy.0