Girls, should a husband have to do housework if he already works 40 hours a week?
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Well, I think that a couple should discuss (and agree on) roles/responsibilities before they get married, as well as any time when their situation changes.
But in terms of how I personally think roles should be split, you haven't given very much context. Like, okay, the husband works 40 hours a week. What does the wife do? What obligations does she have? Does she work (part-time or full-time)? Does she go to school? Do they have children together? If so, how old are the children?
I see that you said your wife doesn't work, but you didn't say much else.
Here's what my preferences would be:
1. If both people work full-time, housework is split 50/50.
2. If one person works full-time and the other works part-time, housework is split 25/75.
If the person who is not working has other responsibilities, for example, if they are in school, that should be considered as "working hours" (including time needed to study).
3. If one person works full-time and the other does not work and they have no children, housework is split 20/80-10/90. The person working full-time should still clean up after themselves and be willing to help the other person out here and then (doing the odd job like taking out the trash, or helping with a task that the other might need assistance with, etc. isn't a big deal and would be appreciated).
4. If one person works full-time and the other is a stay-at-home parent to infants/toddlers, housework should be split ~50/50. Taking care of small children is exhausting work and the two of you really need to support each other during this time. The working parent should also help with the children after work, although it's important for both parents to try to give each other a break to relax and have time to themselves. Once the children are in school full-time, the stay-at-home parent should pick up the majority of housework, but parenting should be shared.0