Should women cook for their family?

My father and grandmother always pushing me to learn cooking, because they want me to be a good wife and mother, if I could ever get married. I think it's totally unfair that they only train me, not any of my brothers. They were kind and worried about me, but to me, it's actually gender discrimination. I believe that after I get married, I don't have the responsibility to cook for my husband and children. Because I can be a working woman. I think we share the duty to cook and do housework. My mom said if you refuse to take care of your family, you will have a miserable life. What the!
How do you think about my situation?

  • Wifes better cook.
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  • Husbands better cook.
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  • Both of the spouses should cook.
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  • No one should cook, just eat out.
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  • The one who often stay at home cook.
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And you are? I'm a GirlI'm a Guy
Updates:
Nobody vote for husbands better cook... how sad...
U guys and girls really helped me a lot, thanks!

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Most Helpful Guy

  • First say me are you paying in the dates equally or will you feel happy when your boyfriend pays for you.

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    • I will say we can take turns. Sometimes I treat him, too.

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    • You are always welcome
      And
      Thanks 😊

    • Thanks for the MHO 😊

What Guys Said 30

  • I voted E. The one who often stay at home should cook because another one will get exhausted because of work and would need rest. While traditionally "Wifes better cook." and their multi-tasking brain is made for this so even biologically they cook better.
    http://d2ws0xxnnorfdo.cloudfront.net/meme/881.jpg

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    • *Cough* Gordon Ramsay *Cough*

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    • Maybe you should starve the ego and feed the soul a little more.

    • @Aphio - No, my life is running smoothly the way I'm living now. I appreciate your suggestion by the way.

  • Vote F

    The better cook/one who loves to cook should cook. In my first marriage, I did by far, most of the cooking. Except for my bread baking, most of my cooking was pedestrian and nothing special.
    In my second marriage, I find I'm hitched to a foodie. I mostly cede the kitchen to her as she enjoys cooking and produces such wonderful food.

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    • I do love to cook. I'm so very happy you love to eat and love my cooking. win-win for all.

  • Part of femininity is nurturing, and cooking is a great way to nurture the people you care about. A woman doesn't have to cook, and there are other ways a woman can nurture her family, but most guys are going to be attracted to the kind of women who enjoy cooking for their family. It's a great way for the woman to bond with her man and show she cares. And be playful with it. Tell him you'll cook if he cleans, or better yet do it together, but typically a woman is going to do most of the cooking because nurturing is what women like to do.

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  • Both should know how to cook, and both should take turns to cook, unless one likes to do it and don't mind to cook all the time, or most of the time.
    I like to cook, so I wouldn't mind doing all the cooking, unless my job doesn't allow me to, but if it does, I wouldn't mind, but I would like my wife to cook once in a while too.
    I think you should learn how to cook, but not only so you can cook for your family, but for yourself too. If you're living alone, you need to know how to cook.
    Also, if you have kids, you need to know how to cook, because if your husband isn't there (supposing his the one doing the cooking), someone has to do the cooking.

    It's something extremely useful, either you're alone, or married, so it's always good to learn how to cook. In the future just choose a man that doesn't expect you to cook just because you're a woman, choose someone that wants to take turns in this, someone that's not so close minded and antiquated.

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  • I think preparing meals is a skill that everyone in the household should have, children included when they are old enough to help out. But how you run your home is going to depend largely on what you and your eventual spouse agree on. The dynamics are different in every family. You may eventually decide that you like cooking and that its just easier if you do it yourself... Then again, he may prefer to be the one to set the oven timer.. Or better yet, you'll take turns. These are decisions that should be talked about before you live together and if compromises need to be made then I encourage you to be flexible..

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  • Its' very intimate and heart warming to have someone make a dinner for you.. both people should do this, although maybe one person has more time for it.

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  • both o course... and by the way, who was dat guy who voted "A"

    it's really sad seein people thinkin dat way in our days basically... :-/

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  • Not really. They can if they want to but they shouldn't be required to. I prefer to cook most of the time.

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  • You should learn to cook because it's an important life skill for self sufficient adults, a good conversation topic, and a fun hobby you can take pride in. It's also really easy to do.

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  • I come from an old fashioned family and I'm old fashioned myself but even I still believe that both men and women should know how to cook if not for yourself ten for your family.

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  • Another post on some women's insecurity with anything related to a traditional woman. Funny how these questions are never asked as to who is going to fix things or do the cut the lawn. Insecurity is the hallmark of the feminist.

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    • first, boys nowadays in my age can't even fix anything...
      second, I paint the wall in my house myself, and I learned to change the windshield wiper myself. Yet I have three brothers. I didn't make them do the job, I only wanted them to help me. When it comes to strength, men can really help.
      third, I am tiny, so I need some help. If you think you don't want to help women with carry heavy things or open a jar, fine, we'll just find somebody else to do so, maybe our neighbor will do.

    • Well, my 26 year old son just fixed the toilet as I told him to figure it out and get the parts from the hardware store. He also built is own computer this year from various parts he determined work together and ordered them for a high end computer build. Married guys get better at that stuff as they need to. Just like a woman gets better with babies :)

    • you're right, train them good! in the meantime, train them to cook is a good idea as well.

  • It's a skill that both should have.

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  • Women should cook.
    Men should cook.
    Everyone should cook! Food is awesome!

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  • I actually enjoy cooking. I've always made a deal with my past partners: I cook, you clean. That way neither of us are doing all/none of the house work.

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  • Whoever is home and able to cook should be the one to cook. If someone can make better meals that the whole family are willing to eat then maybe they should be the ones to cook. I do not feel women are the sole cookers in a family.

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  • Everyone should learn to fend for themselves. Cooking is a necessity to life and taking care for yourself and others.

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  • I vote F: Whoever wants to do the cooking most should do the cooking

    I like cooking.

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  • If you're my wife I'll cook for you!

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  • My fuckin wife couldn't boil water!!!

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  • Either or. As long as one can cook its okay, but no one should be FORCED to cook, its more like "hey I know I do cook better than you so imma cook most of our meals"

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  • My dad cooked and taught my mom. Both are great cooks. I'd say go for it. Being able to cook is great.

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  • Both people should be cooking

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  • Statistically speaking, the best meals I have ever had were prepared by men...

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  • Doesn't really matter

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  • I LOVE COOKING! I would love to do the cooking for my family. In fact I actually do a lot of the cooking in my home.

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  • I think both spouses should cook but i would cook for a woman
    if i she wanted me to :p ;p

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  • I demand my sandwich! @toadette

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  • Girls should cook

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  • me and my fiancee both cook togther

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  • women are slaves to their husbands and me servants to their wives. thats marriage

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What Girls Said 30

  • If a guy expects you to cook because you're a woman and that's "your job", then simply dump him. Whatever your mom says doesn't matter, because she's not the one who will be living with whatever man/woman you choose as a partner.

    I cook for my boyfriend majority of the time and it's purely by choice. I do it because I want to, because I love him... and because his cooking is shit, lol. God knows the man tries, but it's just not his forte.

    I don't know, I think not being able to cook is impractical. I think everyone should learn how to do it properly.

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  • It is a tradition for women to care for their families n to be home wife. Life now changed n requires both to work. Sure, it seems sex discriminatory but ur brothers will have to deal with their wives later. If i was u i will still get my training, learning is not gonna hurt u but help u. You never know what will happen in the future, how about ur husband cooks really bad, u can help n teach him. What if u are single for some time, u want to cook home sometimes dont you? How about when u have children, dont you wanna feed ur children healthier meals? Whatever u decide hopefully u find a man that would cook for u too. But if u dont then u guys can go eat out or bring take out everyday. Umm i know i can't eat a burger more than twice in a row eww really disgusting.

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  • My dad always taught me that in a relationship, you're equal. You both cook, you both clean, share in all responsibilities. So yeah I think it's a little sexist to say a woman HAS to cook. However, it is always good to know how to cook for when you live on your own or if you do get into a relationship where you both share the responsibilities.

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  • If both the wife and the husband work, then they should take turns cooking and doing chores around the house. It's only fair to divide the chores up somehow, like the wife shouldn't automatically have to cook all the meals just because she's the wife. Neither should the husband always have to do all the handiwork around the house just because he's the husband. Both the husband and the wife should do their fair share of work, whether that's cooking, cleaning, changing the light bulbs or fixing things in general.
    However, if either of them stays at home more than the other, then that person could probably be in charge of more of the house chores, since they have more free time to spend on that kind of stuff. But that doesn't excuse the other person from never trying to cook or clean.

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    • Oops doesn't work

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    • What I wanted to say is that
      Women belong in the kitchen
      Men belong in the kitchen
      Everyone belongs in the kitchen
      Kitchen has food

    • ha this is funny

  • My dad cooks in my house, he's basically a house-husband and my mum is the working wife 😂 He cooks really well though. Delish 😍

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  • Everyone should know how to cook somewhat. Personally I want to cook for my guy and children.

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  • I think that being able to cook is a basic life skill that EVERYONE should learn how to do, regardless of gender.

    In terms of a relationship, I think that a couple should share in the responsibility of cooking OR they should base it on what works best for their schedule (for example, if one person works and the other doesn't, the person who doesn't work should cook... or in my case, my partner and I work different schedules, so if I'm at home and he's just coming home from work, I cook. If he's home, and I have to go to work (I work night shifts), he cooks).

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  • Both of my parents know how to cook. Cooking and being able to provide a cooked meal is a basic necessity for survival and it should not be gender based. Let's assume a guy is single, wouldn't it be stupid for him to get a girlfriend for the sole purpose of her to cook him a meal because he can't do it himself or spend money on fast food? What if you are ill and your future husband has to take care of you and the kids and he can't cook? That would be sad on his part to always be dependent on you to cook all the time. They need to get off of your back I know plenty of women who don't know how to cook or cook well and they have boyfriends/husbands who do know how even better than them and they don't even think about it being gender based and who should do this or that I guess because they were not raised that way.

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  • ughh my mum does the same thing to me!
    'If she can't cook whags the point of having that woman' is what my dad said
    I always feel si angry whenever they say this.
    they tell me these terrible stories like one man beated up his wife cuz she couldnt cook.. like wtfff

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    • omg... it's even worse then my situation... terrible stories are like threats!

    • yeah its absolutely horrible they forced me to cook at the age of 14. and if i didn't theyd give me a whole 8hour lecture of why i need to cook and why its useful.
      Personally i like cooking but not beinf forced to do so is what i loathe.

    • YEAH, TOTALLY!
      I like cooking, but hate been forced to!

  • Whoever is the better cook naturally should cook. My mom is a decent cook but my dad is phenomenal. However he works 60+ hours a week so she cooks more than he does.

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  • both should cook actually, but people tends to say that "the key for a husband's happiness is from his stomach"
    and coz, lot of sex etc... lolz

    For me, cooking is a skill, not a responsibility It is a significant/recognition from others of your speciality or significant dish that make them couldn't forget about it. That's what your parents want you to develop to. It a skill that worth your future.

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  • I think both should cook. I'm all for cooking together too. It shouldn't just be one sided tho.

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    • Oh for a kitchen that accommodated two people at a time to be in it.

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    • The Mrs. doesn't mind at all. Love spending time with you. Even in a tiny kitchen.

    • @GraySailorsBride awww! I love yalls relationship!

  • Cooking is a life skill. Everyone should know how to cook at least two different meals.

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  • you dont have to learn anything or prepare for the marriage ! thats some old bulls****! women cook clean wash and men work. we live in 21st century now , dont let anyone tell you what you have to do when you get married . thats nobody's business but yours ! i dont cook, but im somehow alive and happy lol

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  • It depends when I worked late my partner cooked If I was off work early then I cooked. In reality it was probably 60/40 in my favor.

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  • Both should learn... but its good to learn how to cook for youself

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  • I would like to be the one to cook for my husband unless he insisted on doing it. I love cooking.

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  • both should do the task so when one is hungry one can help especially when one is on the verge of passing out they can at least know to give you food!!

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  • Everyone should be able to cook.

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  • You can learn how to cook there is nothing wrong with that and work and everything else you want to do. And if your future husband doesn't know how to cook you can show him so the day you are too tired he will have the food ready for you.. LOL!! 😄😄😄😄😄😄😄
    I showed my husband how to clean. His mother never let him do anything because he was a boy. But he tells me his sister had to do everything in the house. I didn't think it was fair when he told me. I told him if we ever have a boy he will clean and cook too. There is no such thing as a women and men's job. My father use to clean and cook.

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  • I believe that both men & women should cook. It's okay for women to make a nice home cooked meal but I believe that men should cook too.

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  • Cooking is the wife's job.

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  • If they can't hire a cook then i think the wife should cook.

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  • Just ignore what they say. Personally I think everyone should cook weather you're married or not because one can't just live on eaten out all of the time. If you live alone and you can't cook then you're pretty much fucked.

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  • Both should learn. And the one who stays home more should be the one cooking.

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  • Both should cook! I just want an Italian who knows how to cook! Is that too much ask? ahha :)

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  • Do whatever makes the family happy I guess but I hate seeing a dude cook. It doesn't look right.

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  • I think both should cook

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  • The better cook should cook lol

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