My mom tends to overreact a lot and I'm really afraid of telling her that I'm possibly thinking about getting married soon.
I'm only 20 and I know that's extremely young to get married, but I'm considering joining the military between January and August of 2016 because I'm having a difficult time paying for college at the moment. I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years and I love him very much and we are very happy together and if I join the military it will make sense for us to get married because of the increased benefits (I'll be able to get seperation pay as well as housing pay and I'll be able to be in the same area as my boyfriend without paying out of pocket to move him around)
I don't know how or when to bring the subject up though because I know that my mother will go crazy.
I told my mom I was thinking about possibly joining the military back in August of last year and it took her 8 months to finally accept it (she pretty much screamed at me telling me that I was ruining my life and that I was gonna end up living in the projects or pregnant and I was never going to graduate college if I joined the military) and when I was in high school I told her I was having sex (after she begged to know) and she had the same reaction (she screamed at me telling me I was the worst child ever and that I was going to get pregnant and end up living in the ghetto and ruin my life for 8 months straight before she decided it was a good idea to put me on birth control -_-... 2 months before I turned 18).
Part of me just wants to go through with the wedding and not include her at all because I know she doesn't know how to digest information very well without completely flipping out, but I know showing up married is pretty immature. I'm just really not sure how to go about telling her when I know she's going to act like I betrayed the entire family. Should I talk to her sooner or wait until like a month before? Should I do it with my boyfriend or without? I just don't know
I want to include my mother in my life and the decisions that I make, but it can just be so difficult because she always freaks out and tells me I'm ruining my life and it's hurtful and stressful and doesn't help.
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I'd probably test it out first before going to battlefield. Something like "Mom, when do you think is the best time to get married?" or something :)
Though, I think you should tell her first yourself before bringing your boyfriend just in case she doesn't take it that well.0
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