I am so tired of this problem, i don't know what to do. Me and my husband are married for little more than year, from this year he is away for six months, he left to Malaysia trying to settle there and take me to him then. The problem is that he needs visa to stay there and he didn't find any other way than to marry some malaysian girl for that :(
plus he isn't faithful and he told me about that, of course i was hurt and i said i can't stand it and he said he has it like addiction , he needs to be able to be with more than one woman. i said i can't live like this, he promised he will do his best to stop it.
he came back to me for two weeks, i saw some woman calling him many times, sending messages on his mobile, i asked who is that and he said "just someone i know".. i didn't believe that, so in the end he said its kinda "marriage thing" (he is muslim, so its allowed to have more than one wife).. but they r not married officially.. i told him he needs to make her disappear from his life if he wants me, he said "ok, i will"
Now its been 2 days he is back to Malaysia and i asked him if he wants to tell me something he didn't tell me before and be honest.. he said - his plan is still to marry someone from there, he said i dont have to worry about that or think about that, it won't mean he doesn't love me.
I told him i can't stand that, he tries to convince me its okay.. in the end after i said i will leave... he said " i can't force u to stay"
I love him so much and i know he loves me, but he can't stay in his country, he hates it, he needs to get peaceful and comfortable life. it seems even if not with me :( i don't know what to do, i love him but i feel like he use this fact and thinks i will tolerate anything he does.
I am staying in his country (we r from different countries) with his family, they treat me good, but i am thinking just to go back to my country and take a break, give him time to understand what he needs. Or should i just leave for good?
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lol this guy sounds so sleezy. But honestly, i question why you would marry someone who is muslim when you aren't muslim yourself. One of the biggest dividers in a marriage comes about when the two people are of different faiths. Now im only guessing you're not a muslim because of the way you mentioned that your husband was. But even if you are, i find this to be total bullcrap on his part. No guy has an "addiction" to needing to be with multiple women. Its a choice they make for themselves and can stop at anytime. Marrying men like this is a total mistake, because you end up enabling them. My advice to you is to take a stand and NOT put up with his crap on this issue0