I'm turning 18 soon and I'm arranged to marry this girl that's two months younger than me. The wedding is planned and both our parents agreed from when we were children.
We met the other day in secret to talk. She's quite pretty but we both agreed we don't want to get married right now. We both like eachother but she wants to finish school and become a doctor.
But if we get married she can't because she's going to live in my house.
We don't want to shame our parents. We will have our own house in a year, just me and her but that's not enough time for her to finish her exams. I want her to finish her studies. But I'll be preoccupied with mine.
What do I do? I'm hoping my parents will agree to postpone the wedding for a year.
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This is a case of where you're asking Westerners with Western ideals on how to deal with a situation that is pretty much totally alien for most people on this site. The only advice you'll get here will come from people who will tell you rehashed versions of the "this isn't right; this isn't fair; you should only marry whom you love; etc etc".
Dude I dunno what you should do since I don't know what's acceptable in your culture. Can you talk to your parents about this? Can you postpone the marriage to a few years later?0