I have been married for 7.5 years, but I have never been interested in sex with this person. I suppose that means I didn't accept him for who he was when we married. I have always had a problem with his health. And I am not physically attracted to him. Yet, he really loves me and is good to me. I find myself selfish in the relationship, and I realize this is a one-sided marriage. He doesn't want to lose me, but I don't seem to want to change. I am young enough to still have a family one day. I really would like to have a marriage one day that is with someone I love and am attracted to and can raise a family with. What should I do?
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You are with him because he treats you with respect and how you want to be treated; not for a compassionate love, which includes your personal desires combined with the other person's.
I really would like to have a marriage one day that is with someone I love and am attracted to
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My advice: Divorce him and find the right person before doing anything else.
(Additionally, it would be respectful not to take everything he has *technically 1/2* because it was your maljudgment which gave you the benefit of the doubt to free stuff... Don't take his belongings, it would ruin him with taking his marriage away too)