I do you make sure that you don't get to the point where you expect your S. O. to just do things for you because they have done it for so long?
How do you keep things balanced on a regular basis? Or to bring things back when they start to get a little of whack?
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Just asking this question seems like a strong start.
I recall seeing a set of television interviews with LONG married couples (50 years +) and one thing I heard them say over and over is partners who try to be egalitarian fail. Trying to do your fair share promotes accounting that invariably leads to disagreements over the relative value of tasks. Or in the course of a long relationship there will be times when your partner is just not able to fully keep up his/her end of the deal. If, instead of going into it trying to split things 50/50, you go in with the intention of giving as much as you can and your partner does, too, that smooths over the inequities and the times when one of you doesn't have much to give. I liked that advice.
I also, personally have a formal practice of gratitude. I try to end my day every day thinking about the ways in which life was good to me that day. It makes me happy, just focusing on all that is happy or supportive in my world, and being regularly reminded of how much my boyfriend contributes to my life makes me naturally want to give back. Virtuous cycle.0