I look around and all i see is young people getting married then getting divorced do people understand what it means to take a vow or is that a joke? I wonder if I'm the only one who still belives that marriage is sacred?
Most Helpful Girl
Some people don't take it seriously enough or don't think it through 100% unfortunately. There are still people who see it as a very important commitment though. I'm getting married next year and I hope to never experience divorce. It's always been my intention to find one special person I wanted to spend the rest of my life with and do just that. My fiance never even wanted to get married for most of his life but I guess I changed his mind. I don't think it's likely we'd ever get divorced because we've taken our time to make sure it's what we really want and it's something we both take very seriously.0
Most Helpful Guy
I think that marriage is still a wonderful concept but it may be outdated in the 21st century. I am not disrespecting the institution; I am simply making an observation about our society.
We no longer seem capable of lifelong commitment and maybe we never were as a species. It’s not like cheating or divorce is new. Both are mentioned in the Bible and throughout history.
Our expectations have been radically altered by popular culture, disseminated by mass media. “Romance” is a relatively new concept promulgated by fiction, first in dime novels and now in movies and T. V. It represents love as a feeling that sweeps over you from across the room, instead of a bond and a decision that slowly develops as a result of close association. People keep waiting for the magic and there is none. There is only life. The term of marriage has also changed. The life expectancy in the 17th century was 35 years. Now it’s double that.
Despite all this, there are still people capable of a staying together. My parents remained happily married until there death. My parents-in-law have been married since their teens and are now in their sixties.
I have a few issues with marriage, but with the way it is implemented rather than the institution. First, courts often make lopsided decisions based on gender prejudice and sometimes the law is not enforced when it should be. Second, I think it is a mistake to allow the terms of marriage to be controlled locally in such a mobile society. You can marry under a certain set of principles and divorce under a completely different set by simply crossing a state line.
I predict that in the future, people will gradually abandon marriage in favor of domestic contracts. We can see that happening now in the form of prenuptial agreements.0