So many people say they never want to marry these days. Do you or don't you? Give details why
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I have alway wanted to be married. My first marriage failed, but that did not change my attitude toward the institution. Nine years ago in June, I married for the second (and last) time. My wife is also here on GaG, her username is @GraySailorsBride .
I have contributed a few posts explaining the utility of being legally married. Here is a cut and paste excerpt from one such post:
Above and beyond all the emotional, financial, pshcological, sexual and companionship reasons to marry, being legally married means that:
- should my wife become sick, I can give medical directions on her behalf. She can do the same for me.
- if she were to die, I would inherit our family home without paying an inheritance tax (she own the home prior to marrying me)
- I have the right to receive her body and observe her burial requests
- she is elegible to be on my employer's health insurance plan.
- we pay federal income taxes at a lower effective rate
- marriage gave me the authority to represent myself as the step-father of my wife's daughters She receive the same authority to represent herself as my child's step mom.
- she is elegible to be the beneficiary of my life insurance
- we may be jointly considered for credit application
- we automatically inherit each others worldly possessions without the necessity of probate court
When I way in the military, there were many benefits that accrued ONLY to married people:
- basic allowance for housing (single men lived on board the ship)
- family separation allowance (paid while deployed)
- CHAMPUS (dependant health insurance)
- access to the ombudsman program (best source of info on ships schedule)
- access to base facilities including the exchange and the subsidized commissary
- access to base housing
- the right to be relocated to overseas duty stations with military member
It goes on and on this way. Marriage is woven into everything. The main intent is not so much that you change your status toward each other but rather you change your status before the state.3