Its not getting married the big problem for me its STAYING married. I notice there are TONS of divorices happening in America. It made me think from a guy's perspective what would make a woman a great wife and from a girl's perspective what would make a man a great husband, and please be realistic here no "he has to have tons of money take care of me 24/7 take me to Peru when i ask" and "she has to have sex with me whenever i want or she cooks and never really talk that much" this is for a project in school (im becoming a psychologist
Most Helpful Guy
American women are not the ideal wife that men need. American culture does not teach a woman how to be a wife. The relationship/marriage scene here is more of a friendship than the lovers/courtship type of thing.
Men on the other hand are starting to not marry. Some just won't commit earlier in their life. And the smartest men resort to marrying foreign women. I myself am married to a Russian woman and im happily married. She respect the fact that I want to hold the wheel, and does not compete with the power status (though she makes more income than Me).
there's a lot of great single men out there. Some are not considered "good" by standards. I mean who said you need to kiss-ass to be a "good man". You can be a good man and a bad husband, bad father or a bad man, good husband, good father. We all come in different shapes and sizes.
Like I said, the smart men have left the scene. These are the type of men that are ambitious and resourceful. Money is a factor but it is not only the factor. You can have a man that have all the things that a woman needs in him but if he decided to build a pool with a tea spoon (because he doesn't have wealth), then it would take him forever to build the pool.
One of the "important" questions I asked my wife before I proposed was if she will support me no matter what. Support as in support in making decisions, not advices or passive-aggressive opinions.
11 years and counting, 2 kids so far2
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How to be a good wife: 1) Don't be such a nag. 2) Submit and suggest sex whenever it comes up. 3) Never stop taking care of yourself. Keep yourself looking and smelling good. 4) Keep your man well fed before and after work. 5) Keep the house clean and tidy. 6) Give him space once in awhile. 7) Respect him in from of his friends mainly as well as others.
How to be a good husband: 1) Make her feel beautiful and important at least twice a week. 2) Be a great bread winner. 3) Be a great listener even when you don't feel like it. 4) Bring her gifts every now and then. 5) Be very attentive to her needs and passions... mostly in bed. 6) Don't take your problems at work out on her2