If you had looked for years and years and couldn't find anyone you actually loved?
Most Helpful Girl
What is love to you? Why do people always search for that lustful spark. Lust doesn't last. You know what lasts love. But love changes. It becomes a compatibility, companionship, comfort, friendship, trust, loyalty, and commitment. How do people be friends for years then suddenly realise they love each other? Some people find it straight away! Love is what you make it and how open you are to it. The sad thing is people take love for granted and use that smooth old phrase that they love someone they're just not in love anymore. If you want to be in love all the time you gotta keep dating that person, personally I believe if you open your heart you can love someone with those qualities you listed easily. It's not settling sounds to me like raising the bar from the time wasters and heart breakers2
Most Helpful Guy
As you get older, I don't think giving up is the right words. Your priorities just change as you get older. Other things become more important. Look at older widows and widowers. It's pretty common for them to get married just for companionship in their later years. They are looking for companionship and compatibility. There is nothing saying that relationships have to be about love. There are lots of other legitimate reasons. Even with youth who are in love, there has to be more.
Thinking of "settling" for something other than love is just a wrong way of thinking of it. Settling implies there is something wrong with it, when there is not.2